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User Topic: how well do the WS really know BS-WS welcome
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BH knows nothing about me at all.

He thinks I should like what he likes and do things he likes to do.

Same here but I've realized that he prob thinks it because I've kind of always gone along with whatever he did. Not now but in the past, guilty


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5174 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't answer those questions about myself. I wouldn't expect my husband to be able to. My preferences change with my mood.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 4161 | Registered: Sep 2005
jendo
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We did a lot of this right after dday. If you look online there are lists of questions for date nights. There are whole books of them at bookstores.

Posts: 234 | Registered: Apr 2014
deena04
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for your responses. I really want to do this for a few reasons.

1. When we do something, it tends to be his way (or was in the past). I have put my foot down bigtime and he doesn't always like it. Formerly, his choice of movie, his choice of restaurant, etc... Many times I have been disgusted by his choice of where to eat because I am a vegetarian and have some food sensitivites. He knows this, but chooses not to acknowledge often times. Movies he wanted to see have bored me to tears, but then he's pissed when I doze off or am obviously into reading during the movie or attention is somehow not there.

2. I want to see if he truly doesn't know me or just doesn't care when he's done these choices of his way first, who cares about my wants. It's a test to see.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want...I have no idea

Posts: 1142 | Registered: Dec 2013
BlueBlueEyes
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you want to do this because it's about YOU....do it!


BW - 49
WH - 50
Married 30 years
Beautiful Son, Daughter and 2 Grandsons.

OW - multiple, just found out about ALL of them, Husband coming out of years of fog due to multiple childhood and military events.

Hopeful but cautious


Posts: 194 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Texas
deena04
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did do it. He answered most correctly, which leads me to believe he knows me, just doesn't care. Onward and upward and outta this crappy relationship.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want...I have no idea

Posts: 1142 | Registered: Dec 2013
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Jendo! You reminded me that I have three "if" books that I'm going to pull out. Lots of them are just super silly questions, but even those can be fun to talk about.


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

Posts: 616 | Registered: May 2014
10yearsafter
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could probably answer those questions about my FWW. But they are superficial. After 31 years of marriage I still don't really know what makes her tick.

I talk about that with my IC a lot. I know where a lot of her "issues" come from, FOO. I told her recently I have never figured her out and she was shocked.

Can FWW answer those questions about me, sure but does that mean she really knows me. It only means we have been together long enough to know what I like to eat. Months ago she cut hear hair off into a bob. I hated it and told her so. She know I love her beautiful long hair did tat make a difference. No it did not. Yes it is her hair and she may do as she pleases, but do I lie and tell her i love it.

I'm sorry to t/j but just because someone knows superficial things about you does not mean they love or respect or care about you. Actions show those things.

Forgive me for the rant. The subject struck a nerve with me.


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