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PeacefulWarrior5
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBXW filed first and is asking for everything. Met with my A and working on our counter petition. There is no evidence to support claims. Anyone dealt with this? Particularly the guys how did it turn out for you?


To the wrong person you will never have any worth, to the right person you will mean everything...

Sometimes the devil allows people to live a life free of troubles so they never need God


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kg201
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you are at the stage where she just submitted the first proposal, then try not to get too worked up. They ask for the sky as a way to put a stake in the ground. Eventually you will have a four way meeting with the attorneys and begin to hammer out a realistic agreement. The judge will give feedback on some issues where compromise is not possible, and if after that you still can't come to some agreement, the judge will decide.

My X accused me of all sorts of things in her initial proposal (she wrote it and her first A signed off on it), and asked for the everything. Most of the current proposed agreement is mostly what I counter proposed with a couple of sticking points.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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PeacefulWarrior5
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks kg201


To the wrong person you will never have any worth, to the right person you will mean everything...

Sometimes the devil allows people to live a life free of troubles so they never need God


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I filed first here. He is the WS and he counterfiled. He is asking for far more than me.

Though I have very little, I just want to go away. Yet he continues to use myself and children as a financial resource and thwart me (taxes).

All I want is to earn my way, be left alone by them (he and OW) and in future have less and less to do with him. I want nothing from him for me personally, nor OW.

ETA even though he ruined my life in entirety, I do not want anything from him any longer except silence.

And yes, I'll chime in with the other poster to say it's likely you may go through many drafts and be able to get your opinion and wishes in.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:57 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]


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PeacefulWarrior5
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is my hope. I'm not retaliating. I want joint and for us to cover our responsibilities.


To the wrong person you will never have any worth, to the right person you will mean everything...

Sometimes the devil allows people to live a life free of troubles so they never need God


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