It is exasperating how our cheating lover will sing beautiful words to do "anything", but refuse to do what we really need. That final realization that they are not at all close to remorse is such a heart breaker. ((Hopeful74))
I completely understand the difficulty in not contacting your WS. I too have broken NC several times. What I find most helpful during those weak moments is reminding myself of why she is not remorseful, and how I felt the last time I contact her ( ). So far it is working.
[This message edited by justme1264 at 8:16 AM, August 7th (Thursday)]
Don't let him use the "kids" as an excuse to talk to you though, that's a common tactic that they will try to suck you back in. As soon as it goes off topic, shut it down. If it's not completely necessary about the kids, don't respond.
Be gentle with yourself. It takes a long time.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.