And, get yourself to an NA meeting.
I'm sorry about your daughter.
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Heroine is a very powerful drug and it sounds like it has a very tight grip on your daughter. Hopefully, with him being arrested, she won't be able to score anymore. Detoxing from this can be terrible to go through and to watch.
I agree with authenticnow. Don't spend ANY energy on this guy but rather channel all of your energy to your daughter. Then to yourself. Get her into rahab and go to some NA meeting.
((((strawblond30 & daughter))))
I would do as the others said, and worry less about the dealer, there will always be another one, and worry more about getting her clean. And getting your supports, and coping skills in place to deal with this.
What you can do is go to NA and CoAA meetings (to help you learn how to cope and not enable) and to let your daughter know you love her no matter what, and that when she's ready to help herself out, you'll be there for her.
I'm sorry, watching someone you love destroy themselves is one of the hardest things to go through.
In terms of your child, treating opiate addicts is very hard. They need in patient treatment and will only get it if they want it. Sometimes the best way to leverage someone into treatment is using the criminal justice system.
Your post is very short, but it concerns me that you don't see your daughter's actions in her own addiction. He may be the one shooting her up, but I've met many IV drug users who were uncomfortable shooting themselves up so used others to do so. I'm guessing that he is not tying her down and pumping her full of drugs? I'm not saying he isn't scum - he sounds like filth of the earth. However, your daughter's disease is not based on her partner. If it wasn't him, she would have another joint user.
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
It's the hardest thing you can do, to let go of your child when they are an addict. It is also the greatest act of love.
Al-Anon and Narc-Anon are 100% free (for those with an addict in their lives). AA and NA are also 100% free. There are many state agencies that will provide free or dramatically reduced prices for treatment centers and sober houses.
Addiction is a deadly disease with a worse prognosis than most cancers. Detox drugs (although I suspect they put her on replacement therapy like suboxone or methadone) will not "cure" addiction. While detoxing can help someone who is simply dependent on a drug, it does not keep addicts sober. This is why relapse is so common.
While dependency is one component of addiction, what makes someone a full blown addict vs. someone that became dependent on a drug is a myriad of factors including genetic and environmental. This requires specialized focus by a team. I'm serious when I say to view this as if your daughter was diagnosed with a highly deadly form of cancer - search out all of the resources available to you and your family.
I strongly, strongly encourage you to at least start going to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meetings. You can google those organizations - they have meetings all of the time.
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Ask the group or provider that is coordinating the suboxone or methadone treatment about therapy. If sheis getting methadone ask about transitioning to suboxone. More young people and more treatment options as well as more of a chance of weaning off.
12 step programs for you both, yet thst is something she has to be willing to do.
Have faith and much strength. It can be done.
I got accepted to a university soon after that recognised my gifts as a writer. Once I found I had something to offer to the world, I never looked back. A bit like Tushnurse's story also.
My cousin has a son who is a heroin addict. Close to 30 now. He got involved because he is a DJ in NYC, and though he has gotten clean, whenever he goes to NYC, meets up with his addict friends, he is back on. My cousin has bought her 'funeral dress' she plans to wear when her son dies. He says he can never stop, he knows one day he will die. All her attempts to help him failed. He cannot get away from his friends, even though his girlfriend is not an addict and tries her best to keep him clean herself.
I have another friend who's partner is an ex-heroin addict. He also got involved through the rock-music industry. He is clean now, but she absolutely freaks out in a panic if he starts talking about meeting up with his old heroin-taking friends.
My ex's grandson died this year of a heroin OD. It was the first time he tried it, his friend gave him some. His friend had built up a tolerance, gave the grandson more than his body could handle, and he died.
The common denominator in all these stories? FRIENDS WHO TAKE DRUGS PUSH THEIR FRIENDS TO TAKE DRUGS.
My advice is get her physically away from ALL ways she can contact any friend who has any connection with the drug.
Good luck. You have a fight on your hands. But it can be done.