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User Topic: Discovery questions/Interrogatory questions
Futurefear
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am frustrated!! STBXWH did not fill out any of his questions regarding OW and previous OW. Since we are in a no fault state he is basically claiming the 5th as she isn't an issue. Umm really? We would not be getting a divorce if I hadn't gotten the anonymous phone call and every other thing that has happened since then.

He had to list the weaknesses that I have as a parent and I must admit, they hurt-he called me arrogant (I'm not), obsessed with Doctor's (ummm I work with them), not patient and easily frustrated. I think he is building his case against me as an unfit mother. Along with all the verbal things that he says to me on a regular basis, it is a wonder I can function :(

As for custody of the kids, he wants joint physical custody (aka no child support), if he can't get that (he works a rotating schedule on nights) then he wants them 3 nights a week after school until bedtime, every other weekend (his 3 days off) and 2 weeks in the summer plus the holidays and birthdays.

I don't want him to have the kids. He doesn't spend time with them now, he plunks them in front of the TV or netflicks. On his days off, they are in daycare and he is with 'her'. Right now he is gone for 3 days on a 'getaway' with 'her' because 'he needs it'. It is the last days off he has before the girls start school and he is out of town with his whore. She has become the main priority not our 3 kids.

So once this part is done, what is next? Everyone keeps telling me that it is going to get worse before it gets better. I'm not sure how much worse I can take. The verbal abuse and emotional roller coaster are enough.

Today he called for no reason other than to ask if I had heard from my attorney and to ask if anyone he works with have been talking to me, feeding me information-I replied 'no' to both. ugh!


me- BW
him- WH
together 9 yrs, married 7
kids-8,5,17 mon
DD#1-Jan 2014, numerous others followed-filed for divorce April 2014, we are still living in the house together, he won't leave without his $$$.

Posts: 229 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Midwest
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today he called for no reason other than to ask if I had heard from my attorney and to ask if anyone he works with have been talking to me, feeding me information-I replied 'no' to both. ugh!

Don't answer his calls! Let alone his questions that aren't directly related to kids and finances.

Protect your emotions.

I haven't had to go through the other things you've mentioned - the questionnaire and such, so I can't really help there.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
betrayedpregnant
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my, we have the same divorce issue! He wants 50/50 custody of our children too, even the 2 month old who is still breastfeeding whom he never supported or even named him. I'm gonna post that story coming up

Posts: 297 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Hawaii
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He can say what he wants... can he prove it? Insults hurt, but just because he says it or writes it down doesn't make it fact.

As for custody, don't argue with him, or counter, just quietly document the actual time he has with the kids and the overnights. Who takes the kids to the doc and to school? Who does the bedtime routine, homework?

I agree with not answering calls. Can you force him to email? or text? Tell him you decreased your minutes on your cell plan or something. Be busy. If nothing else, let his calls go to voicemail and then respond in an email.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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