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User Topic: Cricket Strength
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg.

Where is my strength?

My teeth hurt from grinding them. I will work to not rant. Maybe I will throw dishes instead.

My kids are on one of their weeks with Perv this week and DS got sick. He got something contageous that is "common" as doctors say. When I was told of the activity I was hesitant, but Perv doesn't feel the need to let me know, let alone ask me, as the mom, if this is ok for DS to do...he is still a baby.

So the texts started coming yesterday that he had a small fever and I was calm and cool at that point. Usually I hear nothing and have to make lots of noise at the lawyers to get him to give progress reports-DD is older and can contact me herself.

Anyway...the reason for my anger burst today is because the messages aren't always coherent or make sense. He said, "baby is not eating". So I took it to mean, bottle, his food, nothing.

Tonight I get a message they took him to er earlier today but suddenly he is better and having a bottle, after I said I was worrying.

There's much more in between, but my anger is because the last text says, "he is in good hands." I know he believes highly of himself and ow, but I do not share the same opinion!

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:34 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2229 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If my child is in the ER and I don't get an IMMEDIATE notification I am going to kick some ass.

I don't want an "after the fact, he's all better" message.. Somebody better tell me, text me, call me while they are in the car on the way.

I am so angry for you.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's the level of controlling person he is. People are like his "property". When he's done, and we no longer serve his needs, he tosses us away.

When I let myself think on it, most all of the IL's are that way as well.

Thank you.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 7:40 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2229 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Futurefear
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If any of my kids are in the ER with WH/OW, I had better get an IMMEDIATE phone call/text that we are going to, met us ASAP or there is going to be HELL TO PAY!!

I am so pissed off for you!!!

Hope everything is ok...


me-40 BS
him-38 WH
together 9 yrs, married 7
kids-8,5,17 mon
DD#1-Jan 2014, numerous others followed-filed for divorce April 2014, we are still in the house together.

"The worst part about being lied too is that knowing you weren't wor


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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You found out about the ER after the fact? Not during???

Unacceptable.

Why are people so stupid?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am pretty sure that there is standard language in the parenting agreement in my state that addresses this. I think it is a standard expectation? Your L could possibly address this failing for you?

I hope you get that baby back soon.

FTG.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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betrayedpregnant
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh sorry to offer a new perspective, but perhaps he was referring to the ER doctors/ professionals and not himself?

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I welcome different perspectives.

And I would love it if that's what he meant.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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