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User Topic: Support tip might be helpful
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My atty worked it into the MSA that my alimony check is to be mailed to HER every month.

Anyone else do this?

So far, I have not had ANY problems in 7 months.

I think it's just the psychological aspect in play. No foot dragging/"forgetting"/excuses on XWH part.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad this is working well for you, but I wonder about the cost.
Are you keeping your attorney on retainer and she deducts a small fee to act as the intermediate?
ETA: What happens in 10 years when/if your attorney is no longer your attorney? How do you get your payments?

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 12:34 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6691 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DL,

That is not how I would want it. I wouldn't want to be charged by the lawyer for this. Also, then the lawyer has to cut you a check, or send it on to you? The time element would bother me. And then of course, after everything I have gone through, I wouldn't trust the lawyer at some time to keep the funds.

I think wage garnishment is the only way to go. No muss, no fuss. directly into my account. Without even having to see STBXH name.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 817 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never heard of this. It seems completely unnecessary. In my case the support is either garnished from my ex's paycheck/unemployment check or else he's sent money in to the state garnishment system and they auto deposit it into my checking account. My attorney is not involved.

I suggest you learn about going through the garnishment system. Further, have your attorney send a letter to the garnishment folks so they can talk directly to you, rather than have to use and pay for your attorney to talk about you to them.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the state of Illinois, all child support is sent to the state and they send it on to the recipient. The state is the first to know when someone falls behind, and they do the garnishment for you. Very nice.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1976 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not being charged for this by my attorney.

Each month I get an e-mail stating that my check has arrived and if I want her to mail or have me pick it up. I only live 15 min. away from her office.

My D case was brutal and tedious....this is what works best in my sitch.

(I get alimony for 2 years only.)


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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