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User Topic: Just stop!!! (Venty)
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 1:05 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey douchenozzle, just in case you haven't realized this over the last four years - I no longer give a fuckity fuck about you or your fucking crazy ass family. I don't want to chit chat about what's happening in your life. In fact, I would rather drill screws in my face than act like we're friends. You wanted out. You were more than happy to stop acting like my friend as soon as your disgusting secretary - the title winning, crown wearing office pump - wagged her dirty ass in front of you. So guess what? We will never be friends again. You lost me for all eternity, til death do us part asshole. Just because I am forced to be civil as a result of our kids and just because I haven't ripped off your nads, does not in any way, shape, or mother fucking form signal a lingering friendship.

In the latest chapter of "please be my friend", exWH decided to text me to ask if he could switch a dinner night with the kids because he has to go out of town on his usual day with them. He goes even further to tell me that he has to go on this trip because one of his brothers is getting married. There was no reason whatsoever to tell me that. I'm not the school marm. I don't need to know why you can't make it to class, dick. If it doesn't involve my kids, which it doesn't in this case, I'm on a don't need to know list.

As usual, I never said a word about the news. I said the dinner switch is fine. Crickets, zero, zip after that. I'm not asking who, what, why, when or where. I'm not extending my congratulations or condolences. I'm not asking about or commenting on a family wedding that is taking place in the family he booted me from.

Wtf does he expect? All I can say is that if he's looking to me to make him feel better about his choices and to smooth it all over with some friendly conversation that in any other universe would take place over a fancy cup of flavored coffee, he can jam that idea straight up his dumpy, drunk, stupid ass. I wasn't put on earth to make the evil bastard who purposely stabbed me in the back a million times over feel the warm and fuzzies.

Fuck off.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2795 | Registered: Jan 2011
RedWheelBarrow
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Member # 38966
Default  Posted: 4:25 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job with those crickets!

I hear you about the chit chat. Makes me want to stab my STBX in the mouth.


Me: BW 50
Him:Rockstar late 50's
DS: 10 , so precious.
Married 14 years, together 17 years
DDay #1 Nov.2012, plus more, more, more!
OW : 25 years younger than him, left her BH for my prize beast.
He moved in with her April,2013.
Divorced!

Posts: 112 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: NW
sparkysable
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Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All I can say is that if he's looking to me to make him feel better about his choices and to smooth it all over with some friendly conversation that in any other universe would take place over a fancy cup of flavored coffee, he can jam that idea straight up his dumpy, drunk, stupid ass.
I love it all, but this is my favorite.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3349 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex tries to draw me into conversations by including extra news as well. After a number of one word responses and crickets it happens less often. He'll give up once he sees you just don't care.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 464 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
Hopeful74
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Member # 44003
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my god!!! Laughing so hard! Love it!!


Me: BW 39 Him:WH 37 (M)12 years; (T)18 years -2 DD: 16; 3; 1 DS: 9
Separated, headed for Divorce-he's not strong enough for me
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

Posts: 302 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Hampton, VA
alwaysstressed
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for this email. My XH wanted to be friends at first and the texts and chit chat always revolved around him. When he ended PA with OW and got a new girlfriend, all of a sudden I was the Bitch and he stopped contact. Apparently he had to paint me as the villain in our marriage to the new woman (divorced and apparently because her XH was a dirty rotten cheater as well). In hind sight, she did me a favor becuase I had a hard time with NC. All the chit chat and the "wanting to be friends" had done was extend my pain. Its so great to just cut him off.


Me: 49 (BS)
Him:49 (WH)
Married:24 years
2 kids DS 18 and DD 21
DDay 5/7/13 out of nowhere
Divorce final on 10/20/13

Posts: 19 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: PA
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I no longer give a fuckity fuck about you

That' my favorite part

If I ever break no contact again, I'm thinking that will be one of the first things I say

Maybe he thought he had to give some "important" excuse as to why he needed the switch? Whatever assface. Just shove it up your ass


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
GetEvenInAZ
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Member # 30891
Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen!

I'm so stealing this for nexr encounter with asshat! With appropriate credit, of course!


Me: BW (44)
now xH (44)
20 yrs, 2 wonderful kids, and up to 5 - make it 6 DDays

Posts: 283 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: gilbert AZ
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Gnat does the same thing, but in his case it's his lam attempt to defend himself. See, he does travel a lot for work, but he also takes a lot extra time after work trips so he and Hello Kitty can make it a vacation. I've caught him numerous times trying to get out if his parenting responsibilities for more vacation time with the whore.

So now, I get texts like "can I drop the kids off Saturday evening instead of Sunday because I have to fly to Miami for a Sunday meeting that just came up". I was married to the asshole for 8 years and know that he never has meetings on Sundays. I respond now with "that is fine. We will discuss which day you will trade with me for this day when you return from vacation". Then I get a bunch of defensive, whiny texts where he tries to convince me it really is a meeting. I don't respond to those. Asswipe.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 897 | Registered: Mar 2013
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As far as rants go.... on a scale of 1 to AWESOME this one is off the charts!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5824 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
AmSoDone
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Member # 43871
Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You go girl, tell it like it is. Love it!


BP(me) 50
WP (scumbag) 52
On-off for 32 years
1DD
1 DGD
Too many D Days to count. Same with OW.

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: UK
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