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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo that this get's resolved soon.

Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They finally fired her yesterday. The company attorney exonerated my part in this whole mess. However, now the manager is being pissy. *sigh* I have a feeling my next performance review is going to be interesting...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(SaZ)

It will be fine. The manager may be too worried to get too pissy with you.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HOORAY!!!!!!

I think if I were you I'd ask to report to someone else if at all possible. That manager should also be fired. Who made her think the "rock em sock em" (love that, btw) meeting was OK?

Until you know where things stand for you and the inept manager it might be wise to have a witness at all of your meetings.

I'm glad to know the toxic employee was fired, and hope her "friends" will follow her out the door. It sounds like your work situation is complicated enough right now without all of this added drama.


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes!!!
I'm so glad to read that they dropped that dead weight. I'm sorry your manager is being pissy, but again...HER actions had a major part in this and she (as well as her superiors) are well aware of that fact.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6520 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have very little interaction with my manager. She's located in New Hampshire but spends most of her time at the Long Island, NY lab. Talk about treating people differently, every time the supervisor down there sneezes, my boss is there holding her hand. I had to learn everything by myself. I'm pretty proud that I taught myself how to perform the lab work. I'm also happy to supervise as I see fit, but that has to change a bit because others now see what the team lead did. I'm getting push back from several of them, but one is leaving on Saturday, so I'm not too worried.

It still bothers me that she made a crack about my conflict resolutions skills; there was no conflict until she got involved, and it got out of hand so quickly that there was no way to de-fuse the situation.

At least the staff will know that I'm not going anywhere. The team lead's goal was to get me fired.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The team lead's goal was to get me fired.


EPIC BACKFIRE!!!


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
Myname
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What TT said.


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TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
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Posts: 3060 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know how your company calculates it, but in regards to us meeting expectations it is done by the system. So a supervisor can't go in and say I am just meeting expectations.

It is all dependent on my adherence, handle time within a case, after call time if I have take a phone call, and how long it takes for me to work a case. I put in good numbers, so I am often Far Exceeds Expectations, but that is totally 100% based on hard, empirical performance.

This TL sounds terrible. My company, unfortunately, is very lax. We have had a supervisor who was the same way, and currently a team lead who is the same way. The supervisor quit, the TL is still with us. She literally gets to work, sit at her desk, and will occassionally instant message us with word from Command.

Overall, from following this story I think you have been treated so unfairly in this situation, ESPECIALLY with that horrible meeting. I wonder how far she will get with her lawsuit... and lord knows she is probably going to go for unemployment.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Buh-bye biatch! Jeez...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Cally60
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

your professionalism is going to shine through all of this.

I agree.

And I doubt that a vice president would bother to phone an employee to try to allay her fears, if she wasn't considered an asset to the company.

I'm nonetheless sorry that work is currently so stressful and unpleasant for you. Sad in Az. I hope everything will soon improve for you.

Cally

(Loudly, albeit untunefully, joining the chorus of those singing "Yay! FINALLY!" for the firing of the berserk shirk work jerk..... Oh. Can I call a woman a jerk? Or is that just for men? Well, in my opinion, she was as bad as any male jerk, anyway.)

[This message edited by Cally60 at 10:12 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]


Posts: 2116 | Registered: Mar 2009
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then they'll pay her to leave.

You were told when you took the position that she was a problem that you needed to take care of.

Keep your head high SAZ, she's the one with the entitlement attitude.

I'm glad you talked to HR. That rock em sock em debaucle should have been documented somewhere. Your manager needs to apologize to you for placing you in this position. JMHO.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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