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User Topic: Regression Therapy
islesguy
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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BS can't move forward without knowing all of the details of my cheating some of which is from 20 years ago and I just can't remember. Has anyone ever used hypnosis or regression therapy to try to help recall details? I am truly desperate at this point.


Me: WH
Father of 3 beautiful girls

* I am a RS (Recovering Scumbag)
* Do as I say, NOT as I did. :-(
* I acknowledge the grace I have received. I know do not deserve it.


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10yearsafter
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It depends some times it works. You may not remember things like dates unless the date is significant like a holiday, birthday etc. You can sometimes remember what you did or said.

I read up on it a lot. I asked my IC about it she says it works sometimes.

Try it. There is no harm in trying if your goal is to find out the truth.


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Trying2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tenyearsafter....where did you find information to read up on this therapy? I'm interested in it as my WH affair was 26 years ago and there are things I feel I need to know but he cannot remember. The only problem with him I think, is that he doesn't want to remember and I can understand this. So, I'm just wwondering, if it would even POSSIBLY work on him if he's not willing to try to remember.


Me:BS
Him:FWH
2 DS:35 & 30 , 2 D Grandchildren
"Oh the webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive"....My WH quotes this often.
I found out about H's affair 25 yrs later.Mine is my own "Life is a journey, travel with Care."

Posts: 296 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New Mexico
10yearsafter
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are some studies on the internet. Just google it.

I read a book 5 years ago that had a chapter devoted to the subject. I have had sever conversations with my IC about it.

The problem is the person usually does not want to remember.

They compartmentalize things and want to forget.

My FWW did just that. Even regression therapy was not completely successful.

Hypnosis is a possibility that my IC said may or may not work so I did not press the issue.

I can remember things that happened over 40 years ago. Maybe not in great detail but I do remember and I can see the images of what happened to me still. But I did not compartmentalize and try to forget. I believe you need to remember no matter how painful that makes us who we are and makes us stronger. But some people can not deal with some things they did or things that happened to them so the block it out and choose to forget. Either it is painful or brings on guilt and regret and they think poorly of themselves.

If I can find the book I will post the name for you.


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Trying2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you 10yearsafter! I'll Google it also. As I stated earlier, my WH has spent the past 26 years forgetting everything about the A...and I can see why he'd want to (being remorseful) but I'm just not quite comfortable leaving some things alone. And I believe it's my right to know what I want and need to know! Thanks for the info.! ☺


Me:BS
Him:FWH
2 DS:35 & 30 , 2 D Grandchildren
"Oh the webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive"....My WH quotes this often.
I found out about H's affair 25 yrs later.Mine is my own "Life is a journey, travel with Care."

Posts: 296 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New Mexico
Trying2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do find it interesting also that he can remember things that happened before the A, but not during! I agree with you...his guilt, regret & the pain have made him forget the bad stuff!


Me:BS
Him:FWH
2 DS:35 & 30 , 2 D Grandchildren
"Oh the webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive"....My WH quotes this often.
I found out about H's affair 25 yrs later.Mine is my own "Life is a journey, travel with Care."

Posts: 296 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New Mexico
10yearsafter
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying2love

I have not found the book I was reading but there is a site that has a lot of information good therapy org.


I agree you need to know what you need to know and you need answers. I am the same way.

I hope this helps.

I have been waiting 10 years for the truthful answer to some things.

[This message edited by 10yearsafter at 12:36 PM, August 5th (Tuesday)]


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