Dixie D - so it took 3 years for you to feel acceptance?
It's a climb- My 2 yr dd is end of Sept. Found out a little later than your 8 years. I have always said if he did indeed realize his A was such a big mistake why didn't he start putting more effort in the marriage. Then I read your history and yours did. Infidelity hurts any which way you turn it.
(( hugs)) to all.