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User Topic: General Reminder to all members
SI Staff
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Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With the holiday weekend approaching, SI is sure to be slow. We've noticed that some threads have had 0 or few responses lately while others get pages and pages of responses.

While all support is appreciated, we as staff are asking you to look out for all who are struggling and might need support. We all know how it feels to reach out and drop to the bottom of the page with no responses.

Thank you.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:28 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 10000 | Registered: May 2002
TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you....

And Happy Holidays


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 455 | Registered: Jun 2013
strongerdaybyday
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Member # 40264
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know...I'm a BS but no stop sign so I hope it's okay to post.

I remember when I first left a message on SI when I joined and due to summer etc no one responded right away. I was SO desperate to connect with others and felt such relief when someone did respond. If you see a topic with 0 responses please respond. Someone may really be struggling and even 1 kind ear is better then none.

Happy Holidays my American friends - us Canadians celebrated yesterday


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 384 | Registered: Aug 2013
Wayflost
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Member # 41583
Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the reminders! Happy Holidays!!


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

Appalled by my actions, and the choice to set off several atomic bombs in my life.


Posts: 412 | Registered: Dec 2013
HUFI-PUFI
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Member # 25460
Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think its important to also say that supporting others does not always mean having to provide concrete piratical how-to advice but quite often can mean simply saying BTDT and I wish you well.

While some members post seeking very practical hands on advice or answers to very explicit questions, more often than not, posts are simply a cry for support and help. In either case, just being reminded that you are not alone in this battle is helpful in its own right.

I have often read posts where newer members are hesitant to reply as they feel that they have little to contribute but the reality is that everyone's support is helpful.

Even if the circumstances are different and we don't have direct first hand knowledge of the issues, I think that there are commonalities in all affairs (secrecy, lies, self-deception, need for validation etc etc) which we can relate to.

And if we can relate to the other poster, we can quite often provide support, offer our help, give advice, provide assistance or just be a shoulder to lean on.

For those who hesitate offering help, please note that you could always send a PM instead of responding on the original post itself.

HUFI

Wisdom from Dobler33 - People have affairs for myriad and varying reasons. Some are far sleazier than others, but the consequences are always the same - hurt, confusion, emotional trauma, the blowing apart of the foundations of your life.


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh there you are HUFI, I was wondering where you'd got to.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - 01/10 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1239 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
DrJekyll
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have often read posts where newer members are hesitant to reply as they feel that they have little to contribute but the reality is that everyone's support is helpful.

Just to echo on this, I find it helpful for myself to post responses to others. It helps me think through my own mess. i.e. what has helped me? what would I need to hear? Trying to understand what the poster is really saying. etc.


Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.

"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women


Posts: 699 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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