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User Topic: Adult A.D.D.
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone pursued a later in life diagnosis? I'm curious what is involved, what treatments are recommended, if it is worth pursuing, etc...



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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know of at least one SI member who did this, but she rarely if ever posts anymore.

What would you do with the information? Would you take meds? I pretty much know I've been ADD all my life. If I had known about ADD and introversion as a child/young adult, my life would have made so much more sense!

I'm ok with my ADD. I guess it's a nonissue as long as I don't have to keep renting bigger and bigger apartments to hold all my partially finished crafts...


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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was diagnosed when I was a kid but I don't take any drugs for it. Apparently there are a lot better options than Ritalin and Adderall now but I found both of those to be somewhat unpleasant.


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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fWH started taking medication after my DS#1 was diagnosed. He was about 40. My sister also started meds at about 60. Both found the medication to be helpful. H takes short acting Ritalin, sister takes adderall.

These meds are stimulants, controlled substances. They should be prescribed by a psychiatrist, IMO, one who can rule out other conditions and help manage ADD and any comorbid conditions. I also think work with a life coach who can assist you with creating routines is a valuable step.

ADD people are often maligned for their inability to complete tasks, but are often creative and spontaneous. They are often their on worst enemies, beating themselves up because of their "disorganized" lives. And yet, those of us who are the opposite, VERY organized, almost to the point of obsession, need to learn from other.

By all means, check out the diagnosis, but love that part of you that is you.

[This message edited by scaredyKat at 5:24 PM, June 26th (Thursday)]


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Posts: 3776 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What would you do with the information? Would you take meds?

I’m not opposed to meds, but reading up on treatment and management, I think there have been a lot of management techniques that I’ve been neglecting and I should probably just start there. I’ve been slacking on exercise, not getting as much sleep, and eating less frequently. Apparently those things are all huge and have probably been contributing to my recent inability to cope. I’ve always had a pretty good handle on it, but lately I've been so disorganized, forgetful and unfocused it’s ridiculous.


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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got diagnosed at 59. Adderall helped a whole lot for several years.

I suggest looking for a psychiatrist who's a pyscho-pharmacologist.

ADD specialists know something about drugs that are OK'ed for ADD - Ritalin, Adderall, Vyvanse, Intuniv, etc.

A psycho-pharmacologist knows the effect of many drugs on brain chemistry. I'm now on an anti-viral that does something with the right chemicals. From the POV of my ADD, I'm getting better as I titrate up - and I think it's going to be better than Adderall ever was. Besides, it's not a controlled substance, so I can use a refillable prescription.

Diagnosis was basically a medical and psych/social history around the things that AD(H)Ders have trouble with. I guess some type of brain scan is also doable.


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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Yep. My doctor said that - unlike depression and other ailments - behavioral techniques were not an effective means of treating ADD and the only effective treatment is medication.

Meds did a lot for me for quite some time, though they did decrease in effectiveness after 5 years or so. They still helped, but not as much.


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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've taken two surveys online that both say I have moderate ADD. I have been seriously considering talking to my doctor about medication but I am worried about potential side effects. I do know that my ability to stay focused to get the stuff done that I want to do is really bad.


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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ScaredyKat, thank you. I hadn’t really considered that I could lose aspects of myself I love. I’m just feeling too scatter brained lately and don’t want it to affect my work.

Sisoon, I assume since you are still seeking treatment you feel a diagnosis is worthwhile?

Annanew and hopeless, do you feel you function okay without meds?

gahurts, that is how I am as well. I've managed pretty well so far, but then some things, like talking on the phone, are just too difficult and it makes me wonder if I couldn't be doing much better.


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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

According to a questionnaire/handout my exH's and my first marriage counselor gave us, we both have ADD. And honestly, the feeling I got while reading through that paperwork was that most people have it to some degree.

My exH did try ... well, basically low-dose meth for a little while, especially after our son (also suffering from ADD and pretty seriously as he hit his late teens/early 20s) had good luck with Adderall. But exH said the meth didn't really seem to make any difference, as far as he could tell. We were separated at that point, so I was deliberately not paying much attention to him anyway

While I may have some ADD symptoms, I haven't pursued medication.


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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I usually function OK. There are times when I work late because I wind up doing tons of things besides what I should be doing because I get distracted but for the most part, I'm a functioning, contributing member of society.

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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Annanew and hopeless, do you feel you function okay without meds?

Not really. Before meds I was on notice at work - about to be fired. Was very depressed because I had no control over my own actions. After meds, I became a top performing employee. And the depression lifted because I could actually set a goal and achieve it (imagine that).

I am doing fine now because the hormones from childbirth and breastfeeding seem to have chased the ADD away. When I stop breastfeeding I will likely need to go on meds again.

I'm not sure anyone was implying this, but getting rid of the chaos in your life will not make you lose any creativity. You just have to make time for it. You have less time once you are no longer ADD, because once you are able to do all those things on your to-do list, you actually spend time doing them, rather than just letting your mind wander. You can compensate by setting aside a day a week that doesn't get invaded by your to-do list.

Make sure you find a good doctor, and be aware you may have to try different combinations of meds to find one that works. It took me a year to find the right dosage and combination (the combo that worked was Wellbutrin and Provigil). Also, get plenty of protein - low protein intake can inhibit the effectiveness of certain meds. Exercise if you can - it helps with ADD and so many other things.


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