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User Topic: He responded to email - need advice on response
peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sent him a receipt for the payment asshole made. I also inquired about the previous expenses because I want a response in writing where he refuses to pay them and acknowledges that he received them.

He took the bait!

He told me that he is only paying this bill because the insurance company sent him a check. He's not paying anything else until he is allowed to see the kids. He doesn't see the kids because he's not allowed to, per CPS until he does what is required of him.

I'm thinking this is where I stop and go NC. In the email I also informed him of the methods he can use to pay this bill but it won't be through me anymore.

I want to go off on his ass but I really think NC is best now.

The bastard never paid a damn penny when he did see the kids.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Paying the payments that he is required to pay and seeing the kids (visitation) are 2 separate issues....

Give him the rope, Peridot. He'll hang himself.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8081 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think he just did!

He admitted to receiving the bills and refusing to pay them.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dumbass.. My ex was a dumbass too. Always admitted to EVERYTHING in email or text. He so hung himself in our divorce. Must say I got pretty good at putting some bait out there myself

Yeah, you obviously can't "reason" with him (It's the OTHER WAY AROUND dumbass, CPS says you pay first, can you READ?!?). So, his consequences are his own, and I think NC now and just turn in your evidence..

I was curious why you would give him a "receipt" anyway. Since I took the kids to all their appointments, my job was to scan the email and send it to him proving I paid it. And his job was to "reimburse" me, and it's on him to keep records of what he pays me. I got back half every bill I sent him at trial using my scanned emails.. He's lucky I'm an honest person. And patient, since he didn't catch up with "his halves" of anything OR child support till the divorce was final. Bastard owes me over 12 grand.

The judge forced garnishing of his wages. Can they do that to your ex?

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 11:15 PM, June 7th (Saturday)]


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thinking this is where I stop and go NC.

Yes, go quiet now. And yes, he did just hang himself because judges see visitation and CS/child expenses as 2 completely separate issues.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I decided to send him a receipt because it was a cash payment. I don't want him coming back years later when I take his ass to court and saying he paid the whole damn thing. I learned a long time ago to cover my ass in as many ways as I can with him.

I think he's pissed off because I cut off the in person contact. He also didn't get the response he was probably looking for when he showed up over here. He didn't get the attention and the whole thing was done in literally a second.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And yes, he did just hang himself because judges see visitation and CS/child expenses as 2 completely separate issues.

Yep, that's why I don't think anything else needs to be said. It won't do any good even if I did.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. You've handled this like a pro. I bow to your superior expertise in dealing with NPD Exes. Time for the crickets...


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I learned from the best!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's nice when they hang themselves. Now for your response:

🙊🙊🙊


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