Shortly after A started H leased a new truck. Had all the bells and whistles. I wanted us to buy what's called a utility truck. It's just get the basics, but it would have been new and the payment was close to the same as the lease...and we would have owned it. I know, silly, pratical me for thinking that way
Anyway, at the end of the lease we were starting R. I was so glad to see that vehicle go. We lost our ass on it due to early turn in, over the mileage (trips made to AP house) and excessive wear and tear (AP lived on gravel road and there were stone chips all over). It was worth it to be rid of it.
We purchased a used truck and from day one it felt like ours. Three years later we are looking again and bought one fairly new, it only has 2,200 miles on it.
Hence the triggers started.
■It SMELLS like the lease....new.
■The day we picked up the lease H couldn't wait to get me home and dump me so he could go show it I off to AP.
Two days ago he was going to his parents house. It just felt the same way to me.
■Yesterday he took a "me" day. He's been working 6 days 10hrs for the past 6 months or more. He deserved it, but again, it felt the same way.
This is so crazy. These are everyday occurrences. This is not in the middle of an A. This truck that I picked out is a trigger!
It's close to the same time of the year as the lease was and Antiversary is coming up next month. This was when things were getting really bad for us. Maybe it's everything all rolled together. I just don't know how to make this truck not be a trigger and I feel crazy for letting it be because it shouldn't.