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User Topic: D-day and my dday
boontje
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suppose it is only fitting that a history teacher would have the luck of having her dday on the actual anniversary of the real D-day. Yep. That's me. 3 years ago, my life as I knew it, fell apart on this day. I'm struggling this year. I'm not sure if it is due to the increased media attention of the 70th anniversary of the Allied invasion, and it seems every other word I hear on tv is DDAY, or the fact that our R has had setbacks and subsequent ddays. Three years ago I hoped I would be well on my way to healing, but with all the clock resetting, I honestly can't say where I am in this crazy journey. What I do know is that thus just plain sucks, revisiting the pain and despair. It's a good thing I am going to get my hair done shortly. A welcome distraction. Just rambling today. It feels good to get it out.

[This message edited by boontje at 2:26 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.
― Ernest Hemingway



Posts: 950 | Registered: Aug 2011
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((boontje)))

T/J - W & I got our degrees on 6/6/66. We might have gotten engaged on 6/6, too, but I think it was actually 6/7/67. (Yikes! This is the first time I noticed the numbers.) End T/J


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10332 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dday was veterens day! We got married memorial day weekend....so far though we aren't HISTORY


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 606 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
veronique12
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, just turn the TV and radio off! BTW, my Dday was on Black Friday last year, which I think is also an appropriate name for that day.

Hope you enjoyed getting your hair done and that you look like a hot mama.


BW: me (38)
WH: 43
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for nearly 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

Posts: 535 | Registered: Jan 2014
boontje
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys. Feeling better now. My hair looks so great, it would be shameful to waste how good it looks, so I'm telling mr. B he has to take me out tonight. The day has been salvaged.

[This message edited by boontje at 7:26 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.
― Ernest Hemingway



Posts: 950 | Registered: Aug 2011
WaryOptimist
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As you can see by my signature, my d-day is 1 April, and boy did I feel like a huge fool. Not just on the actual day, but every year since I get to feel that way.

((boontje))

And way to make lemonade by going out after the hair styling.


Me: The faithful one
Him: WS
4 great kids
Married 28 years, together 36
D-Day: April 1, 2006 (yep, April Fool's Day...)
Aaaaaas Yoooouuu Wiiiiiish...

Posts: 650 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Here & There
918Mama
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On April fools day my h was sending naked pics to the OW. D day started on the anniversary of a death of someone in out law enforcement circle and ended on Memorial Day.

Memorial Day. So fitting, right??

It's irony. But the day doesn't have to have any more power than you give it. Here's to writing new history!!


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

Posts: 583 | Registered: Dec 2012
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, so I got day after Mother's Day as 1st PA, and day after Father's Day as DDay. Those holidays are pretty much shot for me. Spring has kinda stunk here this year as I approach the first anti-versary.

April Fools is particularly cruel!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

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Posts: 2054 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, Girl,
I don't know how I missed this post. I'm sorry you had a rough day but very glad it was salvaged.

Love ya bunches!!!!


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2774 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
boontje
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Member # 33247
Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks bunches HF. I can't believe it's been 3 years already. Like I said earlier, I had hoped to be much further along, but we are still doing ok. We are still a work in progress, and I'm feeling hopeful again.

Send good mojo my way, as MIL comes tomorrow for the yearly visit. Deep breathing exercises are already beginning. She knows nothing of what has been going on, and I don't want her to know, so while she is here for two weeks, things can be a bit weird.


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.
― Ernest Hemingway



Posts: 950 | Registered: Aug 2011
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