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User Topic: Need crickets - vent
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I rec'd a text from my xBFF/OW today for my Birthday. It's the first communication since her birthday last November. We were friends since 4th grade. I was closer to her than my sisters. There is a lot of shared history there. A part of me wants to reply and misses having a best friend.

She kept it short saying "Happy Birthday. I hope you are doing well. Miss You."

How am I doing?!! I'm hoping to finalize the Divorce this summer. I lost my house, the home my boys came home to as newborns. I'm heavily medicated so I won't be alternating homicidal, suicidal, or catatonic. I'm a forty-something woman who's moved back in with her parents. How the hell does she think I'm doing?

But, She is not my friend. There is nothing she could ever do to undo or make up for her actions. If I told her how I'm doing, it would accomplish nothing. It would only feed the drama llama. I remember her telling me after D-Day how 'depressed and suicidal' she was over it all. (I don't like to minimize somebody's suffering but really? REALLY?!)

So, crickets crickets crickets. A whole swarm of locust!


Edit to remove really big picture.

[This message edited by Gemini71 at 9:40 PM, June 5th (Thursday)]


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1554 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
GingerAle
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a delusional, stupid whore! Crickets for sure, just vent here to us. Is she looking for ego kibbles or trying to ease her conscience by being so "thoughtful"?


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


Posts: 401 | Registered: Nov 2011
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think she's trying to ease her conscious. It couldn't have been that bad of a betrayal if we're still friendly.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1554 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
GingerAle
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It couldn't have been that bad of a betrayal if we're still friendly


Sounds about right Are they still together?


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


Posts: 401 | Registered: Nov 2011
freeatlast72
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! She's got some balls!! CRICKETS!!


BS:41 (me)
WH: 41
Kids: DD6
DDay: 12/31/2013
Married 15 years
Separated as of 01/16/2014,now divorcing...WH did not want to reconcile.

You can't rationalize irrational behavior.


Posts: 135 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: North Carolina
Acer0112
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday! Hope you did enjoy your day.

Sounds like you thought through the situation, proud of you. I seem to react and then think, I need to get better about that.


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
16yrs married, 22 yrs together
Separated, divorcing

Posts: 178 | Registered: Apr 2014
SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:09 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Block her number. Close off all avenues she has to contact you.

What a piece of shit. How dare she sully your birthday like this.

Do not even dignify it with a response.

"I hope you are doing well." ????

Hows about a fuck you to hell.

A betrayal of a 30+ year friendship - I hope she misses you and burns about what she did to the end of her days.

A friend would never even consider doing this to you. No way. No how. I wouldn't even date an X of one of my GFs. Bro's before ho's.

I find all OW an affront to the sisterhood but a best friend? And one since early childhood? There's a special place in hell for those parasites. Did you out her?

Of all of the terrible ways to be betrayed a double betrayal like this has to be up there with the worst. My BFFs were my rock - they helped me pierce my broken heart back together. It would have rocked me to my core if any of them were involved in this mess. I can just imagine the devastation.

Block her phone and email - like yesterday.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5444 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My phone isn't high tech enough to block numbers. If she contacts me again, I'll change my number. But she's blocked on FB and I changed my email.

Her BH knows, they have an 'open' marriage. Dipshit STBX is a SA so none of his OW were 'lurvers.' I highly suspect xBFF/OW is SA too. Just makes me angry that they did this over something a good BOB could provide.

Very glad I posted here instead of responding. Crickets are the way to go!

BTW, had a GREAT B-day. Took the kids to a carnival and we rode rides until I nearly puked!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1554 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Bitch, how the fuck do you think I'm doing?" or "Fuck you, bitch!" come to mind....but I imagine crickets is the better response.

smug bitch.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3197 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think your phone has to be high-tech to block someone. You do it through your service provider and it can usually be done on line at the same place that you manage your account.

Having said that, I'm sorry she's so delusional and ballsy.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19812 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Gemini71)))
I would respond with a cease and desist letter from an attorney explaining if she ever contacted me again, I would follow up with a restraining order.
I'm so pissed for you.
My XBFF didn't sleep with my husband because he wasn't interested, he already had Shrek feeding him lots of ego kibbles. But there is no doubt in my mind she would have slept with him if he had the inclination.
She knows she can never come on my property because THAT day they would take me away in handcuffs. I have no true animosity toward Shrek, she is disgusting and pathetic and honestly, I wouldn't want to get my hands dirty and catch whatever she has. BUT, my XBFF, FTB, only reason it wouldn't be a felony murder and only an ass whooping is because I truly still love my godchildren, her kids. She threw away a 20 friendship. Who does that???
And, yeah, she tried to apologize a year later!
Gahhh, I'm getting pissed for you.
Stupid whore/c***!!!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2181 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
NoMorDeceit
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She kept it short saying "Happy Birthday. I hope you are doing well. Miss You."

Nice to know it is still all about her. Silence is the ulitmate payback. What a horrible fucking person.

Best friends since 4th grade???


FBS, been through the D marathon too.
Many D Days in April 2009
Multiple affairs, LTAs, and many OWs
Reconciled... There is hope! :)


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