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User Topic: DS made me sad
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Earlier today, DS12 and I were in car, driving and talking.

My experience has been that car conversations are the best. Don't know what it is, but something about being in the car is genuine, kwim?

So today, DS tells me about his weekend with Dad and how Dad just laughs at everything his step-DD says, even when it's not funny. DS went on to tell me that he feels like his step-sis is the 'new superstar' in the house and how he feels like he doesn't matter.

Broke my heart. Not only IS DS funny, but XH was like THE best dad when we were married. I feel like the more he's away from our kids, the less he is realizing not only how awesome they are - but how much they need & want him.

DD14 recently made the comment that her Dad 'couldn't believe he has 5 kids now!' (her, her bro, then the 3 steps...that hurt her and I hate it).

I'm just venting. He's missing out on two really crazy, smart, awesome kids and it makes me sad. He didn't used to be like this. Since he married, he's just different and I don't care for it.

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 1:48 AM, June 5th (Thursday)]



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finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Wannabenormal & DS/DD))))).... Thats very sad.


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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww, poor guy

I think you are right about the car. Conversations DO seem really good on a drive. DS10 told me a few months back how he's mad that his dad gets to see OW's son (who is the same age as my sons) ALL THE TIME, but how he only gets to see his dad EOW.

I was kind of shocked and had to be careful how I played that one, because yeah, that FuckTard is more of a father to that bitch's kid than his own kids. He CHOSE that family over his own, and that's a truly heartbreaking realization. Of course, FuckTard is still in la-la land where his actions don't have consequences and none of this is his fault and the kids are "fine." MAN I hate that guy..

Sending strength and hugs to your lil sweethearts (((((WBN and kiddos)))))


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's beyond awful how they exclude their own kids when the OW and her children get involved. My ex sees the kids when he's supposed to, but he makes no effort above and beyond that. He barely makes it to their performances/concerts; he never takes initiative to enroll them in sports or other activities; he never asks about how they're doing in school. It's like he is just content with being a part-time parent. I don't believe he favors the slunt's kids, but he doesn't stop the slunt when she excludes mine. For instance, they just got a dog. My kids haven't even seen it yet and had nothing to do with picking it out, going to get it, or naming it. It's as if they don't really count. The slunt's kids have also made mine feel very unwelcome at times even though that house was bought by my exwh. They will try to pit one of my kids against the other. When they tell my ex, he will say that he's "not happy with those girls", but he won't push their mother to say something to them and he never disciplines them from what I'm told. So, it's a big dysfunctional mess.

It's funny how he will want to rip the face off of any stranger who hurts one of the kids like another kid on the bus or a teacher who makes a snarky comment. But, when it comes to his own "family unit", he says nothing.

To me, this shows just how weak and pathetic they are. They will do whatever they have to in order to keep OW happy or else they will be left with nothing.

The only benefit that I see to this type of horrible behavior is that my kids have grown very close. They stick together and know where their loyalty lies. It's horrible to see and hear them though - my dad was like a superhero to me. Their dad, the dad that I picked for them, is a villain.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's beyond awful how they exclude their own kids when the OW and her children get involved. My ex sees the kids when he's supposed to, but he makes no effort above and beyond that. He barely makes it to their performances/concerts; he never takes initiative to enroll them in sports or other activities; he never asks about how they're doing in school. It's like he is just content with being a part-time parent. I don't believe he favors the slunt's kids, but he doesn't stop the slunt when she excludes mine.

Besides "sees the kids when he's supposed to," I could have written ALL of that. No questions about school, doctor appointments, their grades, their extracurriculars, and he's missed almost ALL of my kids' performances and award ceremonies and has NEVER attended a parent-teacher conference.. And DS10 was performing in concerts and plays, and ex missed all of those.

I don't imagine my ex is a great father to OW's kid and doesn't take an active role in his life either really, but I bet that bitch is HAPPY she doesn't have to deal with my kids more than EOW..

my dad was like a superhero to me. Their dad, the dad that I picked for them, is a villain.

Ditto for me too


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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GingerAle
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((wannabenormal & kids))))


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 6:25 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, the Dooosh has not attended one single thing for our kids this year. Of course, he goes about it by telling the kids he isn't allowed to be there because "Mom got a restraining order against me, so I can't come!"

Totally false. We had it specifically written so he could attend school functions- it's actually IN the damn RO. But he would rather play the victim at all times- and make me out to be the evil witch- so he doesn't have to be a parent. Next weekend marks one year since he has seen my 13 year old. ONE FUCKING YEAR.

My baby is graduating from 5th grade today. I will be a complete wreck. My mom, oldest dd, and my xMIL all flew in to be here for my kids... And the Dooosh told my son he cannot attend "and you know why".

Yup. Dooosh. We know why..


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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