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User Topic: Where do I go from here?
rollerager
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This morning I learned that my fiance spent all last night partying with people and ended up sleeping with another girl while I was sitting all by myself at home while the kids were at their grandpa's. I had to beat the truth out of him and once he finally admitted to it I told him we were finished.

I was angry at first but now I am calm. Severely hurt but calm. Instead of just telling me he could not handle the responsibility of being a family man and that he wanted to be single he decided to cheat on me so I would break up with him. He said that the reason he could not admit to wanting to be single was that he felt like he had failed me and the kids.

He made me feel totally disrespected and I told him this. He kept saying he was sorry but I really didn't believe him.


BS 22
WS 26
D-Day #1 EA/PA Oct 2011
D-Day #2 EA/PA Feb 2012
D-Day #3 EA/PA Mar 2012
^On going affair with former girlfriend.
D-Day #4 PA April 2013
D-Day #5 PA May 2014

I cannot see any hope in R, I am truly shattered.


Posts: 74 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Missouri
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well he did fail you and the kids...cheaters do that. I am sorry for the situation you are in. You will meed to focus some time now healing yourself.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
oldtimer97
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He said that the reason he could not admit to wanting to be single was that he felt like he had failed me and the kids.

...and inside of the cheater's mindset, after he says this pitiful drivel to you with an air of sorrow, he in the meantime is expecting you to feel sorry for him now that he has been so "honest" and you will take him back for another try, rugsweeping all the way & he'll either continue to cake-eat or repeat this scenario.

Best wishes, best you found out now before you had a kiddlet between the two of you. There are still good men out there. We know this because we see them on these forums. They call themselves Menz

[This message edited by oldtimer97 at 4:18 PM, May 26th (Monday)]


FWIW, because of brain damage, I write in storyteller form, so hardly any short posts from me & bad eyesight gives me a 50% edit rate..Apologies in advance!

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