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User Topic: What is this white Stuff
LoveEndures2014
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quick question...H comes home late I checked his underwear and there appeared to be white cum stains...what is this? He admitted he cheated but I think he is still cheating... please tell it's not cum....

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justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can;t think of anything else it could be...sorry


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LoveEndures2014
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks justinpaintoday I just Don't think I want to accept that this is happening to me...OK just one more question. .. (I'm so in denial) could it be from masterbation or sex with someone elese?

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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It could be from either if he didn't cleanup good. Either way you need to listen to your gut.
If you thought to look at his briefs then your gut is telling you something.

Time for VAR in his car, a key logger on the computer and snoop for a burner phone.


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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely don't confront him yet. He'll just lie and claim he's jerking off while driving or in the men's room at work and not cleaning up so good afterwards.

Then you will have given away your information source and he'll be 1,000 times more careful in the future.

So get that VAR and see if you can get the information you need FIRST.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
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LifeIsTooWeird
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guys can leak during the day just like women. If there's a lot of it it could indicate something else, if it's a couple of spots, it's probably normal.


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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It could also be a lubricant or a spermicide


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OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..????? ????UNLESS:..


'he's sloppy putting cream in his coffee....with his pants down!!!

..smy.. sorry you're dealing with this crappy situation..


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LoveEndures2014
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all. What is VAR?

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Love)))

Voice activated recorder.


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Credence
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guys can leak during the day just like women.
^^^This. Trust your gut and look for more evidence but this on it's own isn't conclusive.

[This message edited by Credence at 7:13 PM, May 25th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is he into strippers ? Could be from lap dances.


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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it is, its not enough to confront, its easy for him to get out of this one. Go into detective mode and check cell phone usage (online gives you #'s and times) var, maybe a GPS. If your asking this question, it prob means your checking his underwear which means either you have a gut feeling or there's something else your saying hmmm about My gut is never wrong so.if your feeling it, your prob onto something. I'm sorry and I really hope I'm wrong.


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4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second the stripper theory. Getting turned on will cause him to have a fluid discharge. If he is having sex and putting it away quickly without draining it or going to the bathroom that could do it too. If he is surfing porn at work and getting the turned on for an extended period of time it could be that as well.

Lastly there are legit medical causes, especially if he is middle aged.


D-Day 1: 22 Dec 2012
D-Day 2: 22 July 2014
Me: 40's WW: 40's Together 15 years
1st OM: ex-"Best Friend" of 30+ years
2nd OM: Local Realtek and serial cheater on his pregnant wife.

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate to say that the stripper thing is what first leapt to my mind.


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoops--duplicate

[This message edited by solus sto at 10:15 AM, May 26th (Monday)]


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all. What is VAR?

Voice activated recorder. Most times put in a car or office of WS. You can also put them in rooms throughout the house if you think he is contacting her when you aren't home.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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