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User Topic: home repairs
betrayedidiot
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today I found out that our roof is leaking. I am traveling for work, and stbx said he would take care of it with the roof company and insurance. He has a vested interest in the house, since I haven't decided if I want to sell it or not. I actually appreciate his offer to help, but am uncomfortable with him being in the house without me. Not sure how to deal with this one.

[This message edited by betrayedidiot at 10:17 AM, May 24th (Saturday)]


Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
DD-16
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: TX
one2ndchance
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I've had roof work done, the roofers never had to have access to the inside of the house. They came out, I pointed to what area was leaking, they went up and inspected the area along with the adjacent area and told me what needed to be done. When they came back to do the work, I didn't need to be home. They fixed it and billed me.


Me: BW 59
Him: STBXWH 61
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorcing

Posts: 479 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California
betrayedidiot
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is true with the roof, but there is some damage to the ceiling inside the house.

Maybe he can help out this once, but I need to build other support systems for the future.


Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
DD-16
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: TX
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto. When I needed roof repairs, they never went inside.

ETA: Maybe you can have the roof repair done and then have the inside repair done when you get home.

If you are nervous about having him in your house, don't.

[This message edited by littlefoggy at 11:41 AM, May 24th (Saturday)]


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 497 | Registered: Nov 2013
betrayedidiot
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good solution little foggy. The interior repairs are not needed immediately, so I will handle that later.

I have always been fairly indepdendent, but it is a wake up call to lose the day to day help of a spouse. I just have to keep telling myself not to lean on him!


Me: BS
Married almost 20 years
2 year EA and 1 month PA
DD-16
D-Day: 01/14/14
Separated and divorcing

Posts: 92 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: TX
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