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User Topic: Woman called my husband her boyfriend!
Deanna
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We own a business and one of my customers said, "I was just outside talking to my boyfriend!" This really made me trigger. Not just because of the affair but because she is in her early 70's and is dating a 57 year old man. She truly has the hots for my husband. I just wanted to tell her that I didn't appreciate her flirting with my husband.
Hearing someone call my husband their boyfriend just stings beyond words. Sorry I had to vent!!!


DDay - 11/4/09
BS-49 DDay
fWS-46 DDay
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal

Posts: 1383 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Northeast
TheThreeYearFool
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Vent away.

I understand how you feel. Nothing like having a woman refer to YOUR HUSBAND as her boyfriend to make you feel like a non-person.

It still burns me up remembering one of the emails I found from OW: "I just wanna spend some time with my boyfriend!"


Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?

Posts: 148 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
PositiveAttitude
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. That would be a huge trigger for me too.

I remember OW posting on her social website page once "the man I'm dating is a . . ." with a descriptor of MY husband. I STILL cringe when someone starts a sentence with those words.


Posts: 170 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From:
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crazy old bat make sure she knows you don't need her business.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7795 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW would send messages to my FWH (when he went NC with OW) over a radio station that they both listened to and would call him its "boyfriend". Strangely, FWH never thought of OW as a "girlfriend" and was shocked when MC and I both referred to OW that way.

I am so sorry Deanna, that is horrible and would trigger me also. And, as she is a customer, what can you do? I suppose you could tell her to "fuck off and die", but that probably isn't the thing to do, is it? (it is what I would want to do) But, then again.................


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you really need a customer like this? I think that I'd give her a flat stare and say, are you talking about MY husband? Grrrr


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4567 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"the man I'm dating is a . . ."

Yep. If you look at my WW's and her AP's activities, it certainly looks like they were "dating." But I think "dating" implies that the relationship has some sort of legitimacy. In fact, I'm not sure "relationship" is that accurate of a description, either.

I guess it sounds so much more palatable than "the man/woman I'm engaged in a secret, seedy affair with..."


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciling


Posts: 1325 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In fact, I'm not sure "relationship" is that accurate of a description, either.
I recently read in a post here (so sorry, can't remember who) that calls it a "relationshit". I feel that is so very accurate.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before my husband was caught cheating, I had friends that fell in love with the "facade" of him, they would call him their boyfriend, I just laughed and played along, rather proud that others found him lovable....... grrrr Little did I know he was spreading the "love" around.

Now? It would make me sick to my stomach to hear that, in fact I made sure ALL my friends were aware of the sleezeball he really was, haven't heard any of them call him that since!!!


Posts: 185 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Florida
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with sister.... sometimes the only acceptable response is fuck off......

Well, at least in Boston it would be.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3772 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are friends with a couple and the wife constantly makes comments about how she and my ws are so much alike and her husband and I are alike. I'm waiting for her to ask for a switch..its annoying and I dont find it amusing at all. I'm waiting for a time she catches me on a bad day so I can say, are you a cheating POS too? I know where she's going with her comments..she and ws are outgoing and friendly where her husband and I are more quiet and behaved. She's borderline flirting and of course his famous line when I.mention it.." are you serious, I wouldnt touch that bitch" same comment he said about ow.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4710 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't care how old she is, she disrespected you and your H by saying that.
I would trigger too (if I were still with STBX).
The PI caught Shrek on video saying that she just moved out here to be with her boyfriend.
I wanted to scream through the computer, "No you fucking skank whore bitch, he can't be your boyfriend if he has a fucking WIFE!!!!"
Sorry your day was off.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meh. I'd laugh my ass off if some 70 year old woman called my fiancée her 'boyfriend.' Just because SHE'S a cougar doesn't mean all men 20 or 25 years younger find her desirable. I wouldn't find it as a show of disrespect, I'd simply see it as a comical reference from an old woman.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1551 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Melian40
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give him a pillow and tell him to go ahead.


BW-me:40
BH-him:41
DD-age 9
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.

"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"


Posts: 152 | Registered: Nov 2013
Deanna
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all your responses. I think she was kidding but only half. Next time I will have to think of something witty to say back.


DDay - 11/4/09
BS-49 DDay
fWS-46 DDay
EA/PA with childhood sweetheart/ kissed
R - 11/25/09
Life is not a dress rehearsal

Posts: 1383 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Northeast
hardtimesinlife
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You could say "Ohhhhh, you date married men?"


Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Florida
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote next time you just punch her in the throat. She will think twice after that.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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