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Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 8:33 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
She is working on a print article for a large, well known magazine. Her main focus is affairs that started using technology (internet, internet porn, chat rooms, apps, gaming).
She would also like to talk with members that used technology to help discover their partner's affair. Key logging software, VAR's, tracking apps, etc.
She's very, very nice...I felt like I was talking to an old friend 
She's more than willing to keep you anonymous.
If anyone is interested, please PM me and I'll pass along her contact information 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
SoTired011114 ( member #43014) posted at 9:29 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
I'm kind of new here. I would talk to her. My husband started his A using a mobile app.
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 6 years, together 9
DDay 1: 1/11/2014- internet/phone EA
DDay 2: 5/18/2017
Status:...............not sure
emptiness2014 ( member #43092) posted at 9:57 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
By email or phone? I can't pm yet.
BS (me): 32
WH: 33
Married: Feb 3, 2007
Discovery: Mar 26, 2014
Child 1: May 27, 2009
Child 2: May 23, 2012
Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 10:56 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
I sent you both a PM
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 11:00 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
I'm in. My FWH used FB IM, Hotmail IM, email and text. Happy to add some insight. Technology, IMO, makes affairs just that much easier.
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 11:00 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
Sorry, double post....
[This message edited by 1Faith at 5:01 PM, May 23rd (Friday)]
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 11:01 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
Crazz's started on work IM. 
I'll ask him what he thinks tonight.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Deeply Scared (original poster administrator #2) posted at 11:32 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
1Faith...I sent you a PM
Thanks Jazzy!!!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 11:39 PM on Friday, May 23rd, 2014
My ex had quite a few of those from what I can gather! I'm not sure how interesting it would be, though, and the one that brought me here started at work.
Scubadoo ( member #43079) posted at 12:06 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
Not sure how tecnical Facebook is. That is where my WH started his. If you need more FB info PM me.
BS (me) 42
WS (him) 48
OW (downgrade) 48
Married 11 yrs
DS 9
DD 8
D-day 10/27/13
8mth
MinorBee ( member #17895) posted at 1:39 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
My Ex's last affair didn't start with technology, but it's continuance was dependent on technology.
More than one of his EA's were carried on entirely through technology, as were some of his wanderings into 'alternative lifestyles'...and then there was the porn 
previously married for 20 years
DDays: which time?, OW's which one?
BreatheAgain10 ( member #32657) posted at 3:04 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
My fWH's last A began with an advertisement for a chat site on his old school Sprint Mobile phone menu.
I used to see that same stupid menu option whenever I looked up the weather or news on that old primitive 3G network. I NEVER was tempted to click on that chat link 
"The beauty of your life being burned down to the ground is that you can rebuild it any f*cking way you want!"
BW: Me 37yrs WH: 32yrs
Multiple DDays. Lots of TT & lies. Last DDay: 02/07/2015
Tgthr 15yrs, Married 12yrs, in R
4 sons
No12turn2 ( member #40996) posted at 6:42 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
My ex was the Queen of cyber affairs
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
RedRaven6500 ( member #39626) posted at 9:36 AM on Saturday, May 24th, 2014
I would be interested in helping. My fWH had to use FB, Yahoo Chat, Skype, Classmates/Reunion sites and email (both private and work accounts) to keep his affairs going, since the A's all took place back in the states while we were living 6000 miles away in a forgein country. Then, whenever he traveled back to the states for work, he would take advantage of his time there to visit "family and friends". If any of it can be useful or helpful to her, I'd be willing.
BW: 46, WH: 46, Married: 27 years
DD: 26, DS: 24
DDay 1: 22 Oct 2011
DDay 2: 03 June 2019
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 serious long-distance PA/EA's, several casual PA's, some at the same time. Classy
In R
MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 7:17 PM on Sunday, May 25th, 2014
Have been benefitting from this forum for past year and a half without posting (thank you to all for your suggestions and help healing). Finally joined so I could reply to this thread.
Technology was at center of WH's infidelity, how I discovered and also core part of healing. Started with texting client (who was also my friend and got up to 1500/month) graduated to private email account, creating 'porn style' videos for each other and phone sex. Would have become physical in three weeks with planned trip when I discovered email (AP had moved great distance)
I have since through Google learned how to run software to recover deleted computer files, found /transferred VM that were still in the deleted folder, installed keylogger software, acquired access to online phone records and learned how to sync to his text messages from iCloud. I also have sporadically used a listening device with a phone chip installed which I can call to give me audio anywhere I Leave it. And finally, used social networking to find the AP's BH to inform him and provide evidence.
Technology crushed us (as he didn't associate it to our marriage at all and thought it was a harmless game) but has also has helped me stay strong in not allowing him to minimize the situation, helped me discover other problems, and also helped me restore trust that what I'm seeing now is the full picture.
When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou
BW: 43 (me) WH: 42 (him)
DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 8:38 PM on Sunday, May 25th, 2014
I'm game, sign me up please!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
brokeninhalf4034 ( member #42977) posted at 5:32 PM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
I'm in. Phone text was the key for WH.
Me-BS 40
WS-38 LTA with co-worker
Together 10+ - Married almost 1 year (DDay is week before anniv)
"The desire to love someone always exceeds the desire to be loved by someone & that's exactly why we end up loving the person who doesn&
jendo ( member #43059) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, May 26th, 2014
Fb messaging and Skype here.
BW Me (40ish)- now closer to 50
WH Him (40ish)- now closer to 50
Kids ages 10-20- now 18-28
Married 20 years- no2 28 years
OW 27- passed away 2/4/15 from cervical cancer
DDay 4/3/14- 6 month EA - Yes, I know he could be lying and
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 1:20 AM on Tuesday, May 27th, 2014
Trac-Fone started cheating with print porn and phone sex lines, then advanced as technology advanced. Leaving cyber breadcrumbs. He still denies most--but if his input is not necessary, I'd be interested, too
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BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Swims ( member #30992) posted at 1:37 AM on Tuesday, May 27th, 2014
Well, she is probably not interested in talking to me. The office hooker taught him how to text. I finally looked at his Blackberry.
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