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User Topic: Update on my process...
hurtyetstrong
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On Sunday I met with WH and he supposedly gave me full disclosure. Apparently he's had 3 PAs, one of which I suspected, the other 2 were surprises. I knew he had been with them, but before we started dating.

Apparently the first A was within a few months of when we started dating. The second was while I was pregnant with dd1. And the third was a ONS a couple years ago.

He was surprised by my reaction or lack of reaction I should say. Basically he just confirmed what I had known all along based on my gut. So there was no anger or hurt, more so relief because I feel even more secure in my decision to D, because he has admitted his deceit.

He begged for me to reconsider D and asked that we try a separation but I kept telling him I am done. I filed last week and according to my lawyer he should have been served Mon or Tues. I talked with him a couple times this week regarding household things or the kids. All the while waiting for his reaction to being served.

As of this morning he still hadn't so I broke the news that I had already filed and he should be getting it soon. He is moving out of state on Saturday (recently joined the military) so I wanted to make sure he got his papers before then.

He asked me when I got a lawyer, I told him (while he was away at training) he asked me why I didn't tell him I had already filed I told him I thought he would have been served by now (I didn't tell him that I wanted the papers to do the talking and didn't want him to avoid being served)

I was supposed to go to the house tomorrow so he could spend time with the girls and I could get a couple things I had left at the house. Well a certain someone is now ignoring my calls and texts (had only sent one of each)

I informed him (via text) that I would no longer be coming there since he is not responding and have made other plans. Since telling him I want a divorce almost 2 weeks ago I have been waiting for the angry vindictive side of WH to come out. But all I've gotten was the remorseful, broken hearted pleading version. I checked my bank accounts today and he's moved $2000 from savings to checking. Maybe he's going to retain a lawyer? I have a feeling that angry side will be making it's appearance in 3,2,1...


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
JT4588
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well you just stay strong. Don't let his nasty ass bully you. Good for you that you dropped kicked his ass to the door and didn't look back. Everyone has their breaking point and you knew what your's was. Just remember that you hold all the power and you will determine your destiny. You just took infidelity by the balls and cut them off! So proud of you for standing up for yourself!!!

Posts: 71 | Registered: Apr 2014
hurtyetstrong
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Default  Posted: 5:43 AM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks JT


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He begged for me to reconsider D and asked that we try a separation

If he truly wanted to work things out, he wouldn't be ignoring your messages. Just re-enforcement that you've made the right decision.

Hope his papers are served before he leaves tomorrow. What's the hold up??


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4205 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
hurtyetstrong
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, May 23rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope his papers are served before he leaves tomorrow. What's the hold up??

In our county they are sent via certified mail. I have a feeling he got them yesterday. My lawyer is only notified if he does NOT receive them.


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
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