On Sunday I met with WH and he supposedly gave me full disclosure. Apparently he's had 3 PAs, one of which I suspected, the other 2 were surprises. I knew he had been with them, but before we started dating.
Apparently the first A was within a few months of when we started dating. The second was while I was pregnant with dd1. And the third was a ONS a couple years ago.
He was surprised by my reaction or lack of reaction I should say. Basically he just confirmed what I had known all along based on my gut. So there was no anger or hurt, more so relief because I feel even more secure in my decision to D, because he has admitted his deceit.
He begged for me to reconsider D and asked that we try a separation but I kept telling him I am done. I filed last week and according to my lawyer he should have been served Mon or Tues. I talked with him a couple times this week regarding household things or the kids. All the while waiting for his reaction to being served.
As of this morning he still hadn't so I broke the news that I had already filed and he should be getting it soon. He is moving out of state on Saturday (recently joined the military) so I wanted to make sure he got his papers before then.
He asked me when I got a lawyer, I told him (while he was away at training) he asked me why I didn't tell him I had already filed I told him I thought he would have been served by now (I didn't tell him that I wanted the papers to do the talking and didn't want him to avoid being served)
I was supposed to go to the house tomorrow so he could spend time with the girls and I could get a couple things I had left at the house. Well a certain someone is now ignoring my calls and texts (had only sent one of each)
I informed him (via text) that I would no longer be coming there since he is not responding and have made other plans. Since telling him I want a divorce almost 2 weeks ago I have been waiting for the angry vindictive side of WH to come out. But all I've gotten was the remorseful, broken hearted pleading version. I checked my bank accounts today and he's moved $2000 from savings to checking. Maybe he's going to retain a lawyer? I have a feeling that angry side will be making it's appearance in 3,2,1...Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)
Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (hopefully will be final!!!)