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User Topic: Rejection
Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All right, I give up. Some men are just too busy for a date. Yesterday, I got an email at about 5pm saying he was going to be too late working, for our date. What did I think about having dinner with him tonight? So I said fine, I could understand, and I gave him my cell number so he could call me about our dinner. Today, the guy calls at 5:30, says he fell asleep in a chair, and did I still want to go out? I had already given up on him at 5:00 and gone out shopping, and I told him so. I can take rejection, but I hate the runaround. If he was really interested in me, don't you think he would have set up a time, and stuck to it? Such enthusiasm. I put his email in junk, and blocked his calls. Lazy man, no wonder he is divorced.


Posts: 162 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Smashed)))

I went through a lot of bad first dates (close to 40) and after a while, I decided to consider each one making me more clearly understand what I wanted/didn't want in a partner, and also one step closer to finding a good guy.

Good for you for having self-respect and not putting up with poor treatment.

I know a good guy is out there for you!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, that's what my best friend told me, too. i don't need anybody right now, I just wish I wasn't so isolated here.

Posts: 162 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i don't need anybody right now, I just wish I wasn't so isolated here.

Right here with you! I have a life. I don't need anybody to feel fulfilled. It would however be nice to go out, enjoy a meal with someone etc.
I am not looking to pick out wedding china for god-sake!
Just companionship.

I have to believe that there are men out there with the same mindset.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rising from ashes, we are of the same mind. I just need to get out. I live in a backwater, isolated on 20 acres among horse farms, etc. It is fine if you are totally self sufficient, but, damn it, I was supposed to be married to someone. I am not fine, but I don't think I deserve to be treated in this manner. I am able to accept the fact that I am not someone's ideal, but I am not able to accept being trifled with. Again, I deserve better!

Posts: 162 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you for having self-respect and not putting up with poor treatment.

That guy sounds really lame. I'm so glad to hear you are not settling for more of that. Save your time for someone better.

I also live in a really rural area and that means I have to plan my trips into civilization carefully. Last minute things don't work out that well.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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