Sometimes, it is almost hard to believe that WH’s A really happened. Every once in a while it will hit me:
“OMG, while I was home holding down the fort & taking care of our 4 kids, WH had a sexual relationship with another woman!”
After 22 years together building our family, & thinking I was married to an honorable man, who I unquestioningly trusted 100%,
I was truly blindsided on Dday.
I remember thinking during the weeks before & after Dday:
“Who is this extraterrestrial alien who is occupying my husband's body, & what did it do with my husband?”
WH was unrecognizable.
I know that other BSs have had this same feeling. I am hoping that there are WSs out there who can explain what it is like to be in the head of the person whom the alien invaded.
[This message edited by mchercheur at 1:31 PM, May 18th (Sunday)]
Regardless, what does your H say?
I edit, therefore I am.
Fast forward...now the A has flared up again. Now he's saying, "I haven't loved you in years. I was just going through the motions." He is cold, unfeeling and unremorseful. He refuses to work on the marriage and has filed for divorce.
My conclusion is that BOTH persona are in there. It is kind of creepy and scary. I wish the good H persona would come back, but I've seen too much of the resentful, festering, coldhearted one to get over it now.