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User Topic: Why can't I watch one movie without an a in it????
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously it's our first antiversary today. He's at work and I'm watching a lifetime movie about a couple after they have had a still born baby. The husband decides to sleep with his co worker. The cow tells him "don't be stupid and tell your wife now." Really ????? What kind of ass cheats on his wife like that?????? Sigh nothing is safe anymore


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 361 | Registered: May 2013
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After Dday I sat in my basement and watched EVERY affair movie I could get my hands on. I sobbed and raged and tried hard to bleed it out and/or desensitize myself. Not sure that was a terrific strategy, but that's what I did. I love movies. I'll be hanged if I am going to get blindsided every time I watch a movie. I triggered over Snow White, for pity's sake. I triggered over Hook. Now I am just very aware of how infidelity is portrayed in a movie, and if I'm watching with my WH we can talk about it. We watched Rambo 4 last night, and I pointed out to him I saw a whole lot of sexual tension and EA type behaviour between Rambo and the engaged female missionary. He thought she was just being really heartfelt and brave. That led to a very interesting conversation.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Cuppacoffee))

I am truly so sorry for your pain. Congratulations on surviving one year.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
RipsInMyChest
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know!!!! I triggered hard over the movie Blue Jasmine last week. Laid in bed after, sobbing.

I love movies and infidelity is everywhere on shows/movies. I guess I will have to get used to it!


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 261 | Registered: Oct 2013
Strangefacade
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've stumped me. Can't think of a single movie. Sorry.
Even in frozen, the engaged chic is falling for someone else.
Is it any wonder with today's movies that people think affairs are acceptable?


I'm strong again. That's the only reason you choose me.

Posts: 35 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Mi
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, we watched "At Middleton " last night----they completely romantisized the infidelity so that most viewers so want it to work out for the APs .
This is the culture we live in-----"everyone does it so it must be ok." At least, years ago, the family was valued. Now the message is "me me me".


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1396 | Registered: Dec 2012
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was so pissed watching frozen when the trolls were singing and they started singing about her not having a ring on and getting the fiancÚ out of the way. I really liked it up until that. The husband saw my fave drop during the song and told me he was sorry.

Damn even Chicago pd had it.
I hate tv.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 361 | Registered: May 2013
Melian40
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Affairs are everywhere!
Before DD I found them boring and now I find them triggery, but lately I 'm kind of used to them again.
It's interesting when we both watch together a movie or tv series with affairs and then they show the consequenses of A as well. I don't make a comment, I pretend everything is fine, and then he says, hmm, you're going to leave me like she did, huh?
I never answer that question.


BW-me:40
BH-him:41
DD-age 9
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.

"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"


Posts: 208 | Registered: Nov 2013
Flourgirl
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watched that Lifetime movie too. I wanted to kill the OW.


BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids

Posts: 190 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
SunshineSoul
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Default  Posted: 12:48 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We just watched Silver Linings Playbook. That was a huge trigger for me. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes too!
Good movie, though.


Me = BS, 36
Him = WH, 42
2 beautiful kids: 6yo & 11 month old.
Married since 2001, together since 1998.
Dday = Feb 20, 2014.

It's just not that simple.


Posts: 99 | Registered: May 2014 | From: West Coast
heartbroken2012
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. Right there with ya. I cant stand to watch them either.


BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 551 | Registered: Jan 2013
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