"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
What does your L say on pushing some shit through to get the D going?
If you are doing his laundry or anything, stop it. Tell him he needs to do xyz chores around the house, you are not his maid.
Also, as I told mine, he CAN NOT talk about his whore freely around you and the kids. It is YOUR HOUSE too, and you do NOT allow trash in your house, even in words. (When doing in-house I got to a point that I stormed into his room and told him he was no longer allowed to skype with his whore while in my house, around my kids, 10 feet from them and I. That whores were not allowed in my house and if he wanted to skype with her, he could go elsewhere, we were not going to be subjected to him putting her before his kids. She was on the computer at the time and heard me; I called her every name in the book. Yeah yeah, not good 180, but I exploded. He moved out within a few weeks.)
Doesn't matter if he doesn't want to agree on things; he doesn't get to just have a perfect care-free life while you and the kids suffer around him.
As far as the panties go? I'd let him know that I knew about them, and the fact that he's letting his crazy ho's know where you live is a danger to you and the kids. That next time he gets a delivery of that sort you will call the police to hunt down the person and get and RO against her, and him. Ass.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Devistatedmom-he is definitely on his own in this house. Been that way for awhile.the thing I'm looking forward to most....we will all be on summer break very soon (except him) so we have weeks of staying up late. DS16 has friends sleep over any night of week, late night pizza delivery, and overall coming and going at odd hours. He's always hated it. This year I have another reason to enjoy it more.
This is his divorce. He wanted it so he could pursue this new life he has experienced that he likes(WTF). So hoping he soon comes around and agrees to things on the MDA and parenting plan or he proposes something reasonable. Then he can collect all the panties he wants!
the thing I'm looking forward to most....we will all be on summer break very soon (except him) so we have weeks of staying up late. DS16 has friends sleep over any night of week, late night pizza delivery, and overall coming and going at odd hours. He's always hated it. This year I have another reason to enjoy it more.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.