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User Topic: He has a proposal for me
tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dayum.
Epic mantrum in
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Okay then. As you are determined to never grow up, we will stick to the guidelines. From now on, don't ask my wife anything as you are not entitled to know. If she picks up Teslet it is at my behest and that's all you need to know. It doesn't upset you that I'm not picking him up, it upsets you that Teslet loves stripper whore so much. So stop taking your shit out on everyone else.

Wow. This guy is losing it. But hey, whatever you have to tell stripper whore to keep her doing your bidding is just fine by me. Now, I actually have zero problem with her picking Teslet up. What bothers me is that I tell Teslet one thing and something else happens. My son does not like uncertainty. He acts out when shit starts not happening as he expects it. But I get it, I'll just have to start telling Teslet that I don't know who is picking him up.
But here is the really important thing...what if he is out of town and she's picking him up for afternoon visits/future weekend visits and he never even sees his dad? That's an issue. It seems from the last two pick-ups that he may be setting this very situation up.

Ex-shat will take his travel trailer out to these jobs. It sounds like his plan is to have stripper whore, baby, and Teslet in travel trailer while he works these 12 hour shifts. Again, I don't have a problem with this...it's life/his parenting time...he has to work. But why does it have to be the weeks he specifies and not in June...I don't see the difference. Would this be considered a change of residence? Or is Teslet on 'vacation' with ex-shat? The waters get muddied and ex-shat starts pulling shit in muddy waters.
Meh.
ANyway, crickets to him and I need to get some clarification on these things from my lawyer.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where's Biff when you need him?

Hello? Hello? Anyone home, huh? Think, EX-SHAT! Think!

But I think I found how ex-shat and StripperWhore met...

[Ex-Shat comes to StripperWhore at the local diner]
Ex-Shat: StripperWhore. My density has brought me to you.
StripperWhore: [non-plussed] What?
Ex-Shat: [trying to utter line written on notebook without being caught] Oh. What I meant to say was...
StripperWhore: Wait a minute. Don't I know you from somewhere?
Ex-Shat: Yes. Yes. I'm Ex-Shat. Ex-Shat McFuckTard. I'm your density. I mean, your destiny.

But seriously girl, he just tried to bait you, and you thought about defending yourself FOR NO FUCKING REASON. Yes, sit on it for a while.

You were perfectly unemotionally talking about the schedule, and he wants to throw in some ridiculous jabs to get you upset. Like you still give a fuck what he's doing. Unless, like you said, whatever it is is NOT with Teslet. What an egotistical ass..


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((tesla)))

If we are keeping score, Ex-shat is now in need of a dictionary, a remedial math class and a calendar. And a filter because what comes out of his mouth is full of shit.

I can't believe how fucking stupid he is, except that I can.

In my opinion, the travel trailer in a new location for the duration he describes is a change in residence. It may be a temporary residence, but in no way is it a vacation.

I hope your L has some solution? Is there a solution that is legal, because of course, the removal of ex-shat from the planet would be a solution, but I doubt NASA would accept him for the Mars trip.


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

These guys are so ridiculously immature and stupid that it is really too much to fathom.
Stbx pulls this type of *drama* shit too. It looks like this (and is also how I've read ex-shat's messages to you):

Stbx *wants* something. Sends a communication in a fairly 'reasonable' tone and paints it as a *good* thing for both of us.
I point out all of the holes in his *solution*.
He throws a mantrum.
Comms are then 'shut down' and L's are called.
(then stbx bitches about our legal bills )

I always end up thinking: "*he* is the one who 'wants' <something>, then prefers to have an argument instead of a discussion (because I don't just automatically say 'yes, dear, whatever you say)....and then becomes insulting and offensive towards me. GREAT PLAN!! Way to ensure that you do NOT get me to agree to whatever 'favor' you're asking me for, stbx......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is unicornrainbowfartland full of LSD skittles? I have to say I am so impressed with your ability to stay reasonably calm and not shoot with both barrels. I am so sorry that he is so far offside he can't even see the playing field.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shit. I can't believe I have 14 more years of this.

Oh tesla ~ I can not even imagine dealing with this type of drama for that long. I am so grateful my kids were much older when stbx left.

As far as his mantrum, that was epic pathetic. LOL! What a idiot.

Hang in there, tesla!! You know you can handle it but it must get tiring after a while. (((((tesla)))))


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's scraping the bottom of the barrel.

Grow up??

Priceless!!

He's looking for some arse cheese to go with his whine. Dude needs to learn not to drunk dial.

Camping means something different to me. If he's working the whole time then that's just slumming it, not camping.

I hate him for making me feel grateful for the sad clown. At least he can read most of the time.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IRL I'm so pragmatic and laid back. Somewhere in an alternate universe, altex-shat and altTesla are great co-parents and when altTesla sends altex-shat a text saying his son is disappointed when he doesn't personally pick his son up, he would make that about his son. Not about how altTesla is vindictive and hateful and childish and probably wants him back so she's trashing altstripper-whore.

Sigh.
Maybe in another year I'll get used to this. Maybe in another year, he'll figure out that life is easier when he just plays by the rules.

Good news, I'm not personally insulted by his bullshit anymore. I guess that's progress.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe in another year, he'll figure out that life is easier when he just plays by the rules


Good freakin' luck with that.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good freakin' luck with that.....

Yeah


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so it really isn't 14 years, it's more like 12 cause when Teslet is big enough to drive, and have a job, he will want to do anything but deal with this idiot. You will have done such an awesome job raising him to be pragmatic and a realist, and he will start seeing through his dads and Stripperwhores alternate reality probably by the time he is 10.

My FIL is a weirdo, and he does all kids of crazy shit that falls into the wtf category, and my kids with a very limited amount of exposure to him, holidays, and birthdays only, picked up on it before they were 8. Asking the questions of How come Gpa does X, Y and Z? And me being a realist, and my H being a realist who is no nonsense would tell them that Grandpa is just different, and makes unusual choices.

So Yah, they spent the night with them one time. That's it. Why? Because they prefer to just not be around him. Now my MIL? They would freaking move in with her if I let them. LOL.

My point being that Exshat will ruin this for himself, and it will be well before Tesla is 18.

Deep breaths, and know that you are doing the right things.

(((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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