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User Topic: He has a proposal for me
bbee
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IrishLass, I'm just glad you didn't reference the Cubs. And, Tesla, what the ever-livin' fuck? Maybe if he does go to jail, Stripper Whore will give you Mosely back.


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6656 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

 
I will almost certainly respond, "Oh, you're being serious. I thought you were drunk when you sent that."

Glad I wasn't drinking anything when I read that. I hate when it comes out my nose!

You're right, this "proposal" should go through the L since you both are represented now. Nothing like a last minute grandstand.

If Bbee is right, I just wonder if Mosely would need months of retraining coming back after all this time with them..... but maybe he's too smart for them and is just biding his time and taking in all their stupidity, just shaking his head. Poor Mosely.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2388 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is a job in XXX [2.5 hours away] working 7 12s plus per diem. 4 to 6 weeks of it would be enough to get current and to pay you what you're owed.
Am I reading this right? He says he is going to work 7 days a week, 12 hour shifts, for 4-6 weeks. Plus per diem on top of that? This kind of work schedule just doesn't seem possible.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3415 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sparky, this is possible in his trade...but, it's subject to rainouts. This was the type of work he was doing when we were first married. It's blood money...and now he's 10 years older. Even back when he was working those shifts, he couldn't handle three weeks of it before he needed time off and was looking for the next gig.

It's wishful thinking on his part. He can't pay me back the full amount and support his other family. Not. Possible.

He can't do contracting jobs and see Teslet without me being flexible on arranging visitation time. If he wants flexibility in visitation, then he has to mediate a new visitation agreement.

Yet once again, he tries to maintain control and dictate the terms. BTDT. And so over it.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*****He can't pay me back the full amount and support his other family. Not. Possible.*****

I was wondering about ^^this also. Seems that he's forgotten to take his own daily/necessary expenses into account.

I don't really understand what type of *flexibility* he's looking for here -- it doesn't sound like he'll be able to see Teslet for 4-6 weeks (while he's on this job)........so is he looking for some big block of *make-up* time when he's finished?
He is way too much of a flake for you to agree to that type of arrangement. He'll end up getting exactly what *he* wants, and you'll get screwed.

Btw....have you sent him a response?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8087 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teslet is supposed to spend the month of June with his dad....so yeah, not sure what he thinks is supposed to happen, he wants July instead? He wants to break up his four weeks and take them as he pleases throughout the rest of the summer...rest of the year? None of it makes sense.

So, in the absence of this being an actual proposal that one could respond to...he got crickets.

He's not in a position to negotiate with me. I don't *need* CS to make it. (But it sure as shit will be nice when that money comes in.) And I know that eventually I'll get the money. He can take me to mediation to change the visitation arrangement but he doesn't want to do that because he'll have to follow another person's judgment and rules. He hates that shit so I know he won't do that either.

Crickets is going to drive him fucking crazy because he needs to make a decision about this supposed job...my guess is that he would start on Monday. He could get 2-3 weeks in before his summer visitation starts...so he has an opportunity to show some action. I'm not holding my breath.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j

That first pic was HI-LARIOUS NG. Actually laughed my ass off.

And yeah, don't diss my Cubbies! My folks are on vacation and at a game at Wrigley today

end t/j

I'll tell ya Tesla, NG scared the shit out of me with her advice about the legal system. I felt SOOOOO lucky with the judge I got. It meant everything to me that he understood and that FTFred was FINALLY getting some consequences.

Being f'd over by the legal system makes it all suck so much harder..

FTFred is behind over $12,000 in child support, having never paid me as he was supposed to be doing voluntarily, even after I TOLD that motherfucker in DECEMBER 2012 what it was going to be by using the online calculator. I guess he didn't believe me that the retroactive was gonna bite him in the ass.

And I was exactly right on the amount, and now he's being garnished with an extra $100 every month for the next million years to pay off his debt.

It's not ideal, but at least it's some justice. I think if they win the lottery they pay us before him. A girl can dream...

Don't give up the fight, and don't let him dick you around. The judge saw that I was "reasonble" and "understanding" with schedule changes, but not at the cost of him being a flake. The judge actually chewed out my ex for trying to mess around with it so much and prevent a consistent schedule for them..

I don't answer scheduling requests from FTFred unless he gives me the exact day, pickup time and return time. Not sure why that's so hard for an NPD..

If he's not specific, state guidelines.

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 2:39 PM, May 17th (Saturday)]


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Posts: 2335 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I might respond with

"working 2.5 hours away 7 days a week during the scheduled month of June, I understand that you are forfeiting your parenting time. There is no "juggling" the schedule as my plans are set."

Quality time??? OH....my. what a jackass. Does he even know what that is????

I might also be tempted to copy and paste the definition of SCHEDULE from Websters Dictionary for him. And RESPONSIBILITY. sheesh. And QUALITY. ah, hell, just send him a damn dictionary.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j
To be honest, I'm pretty surprised. I figured Stripper Whore would be the one who had to take a job in XXX.
h0peless - you made me do a spit take.

end t/j


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GingerAle
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I might also be tempted to copy and paste the definition of SCHEDULE from Websters Dictionary for him. And RESPONSIBILITY. sheesh. And QUALITY. ah, hell, just send him a damn dictionary.


Great idea, except NPD's seem to have their own dictionary


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finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j. Even after almost 3 years since the divorce I sometimes fantasize about how wonderful his life is without me until I read some bs like this.

His life sucks!!! He is so fucked up that he can't control himself enough to go to work sober. He has two children that he is having a hard time supporting. He is trying to dodge a jail sentence at every turn. Stripperwhore has to do ALL of the heavy lifting in the relationship, because he's asleep all the time. Then when he wakes up she has to service him.

I wonder if they use little Teslet as a makeshift "step-mom" little helper with the oc because I refuse to believe that there is "quality" time being had.

I agree with Crickets.


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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesla, do you make a bowl of popcorn when you see an email from nasty azzclown?


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Posts: 1608 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy Fuck. He sent this text overnight:


Unless we change our summer visitation schedule Teslet will be camping with me in XXX beginning memorial day week for approximately 2 maybe 3 weeks. I would like my second week scheduled visit to be the first week of September.
Next year, I will take Teslet in July.

What in the ever loving fuck is wrong with this piece of shit? Teslet is still in school for the 2 weeks after memorial day! He's in school the first week of September...how is the first week of September the second week of visitation??? Why do I keep trying to make sense the ravings of a madman?

Ex-shat??...yoo-hoo?!...Anybody with a functioning brain over there??? You don't get to decide!!! You had your chance. Work your life around it, you piece of shit. Stop trying to shove Teslet into your bullshit. This fucker can expect a couple of responses, one from me and one from my lawyer.
Fuck. That. Guy.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Next year, I will take Teslet in July.

Hey, at least he finally gave some notice for something.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^I know, right.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^are you taking bets about if he'll lock down dates before the deadline?

Breathe mamma. Just breathe. Whether he is being obtuse on purpose or is just dumber than a bag of rocks he'll just have to learn to play ball.

I know it is maddening but you need to try to give it another ought. Let him pay his L to interpret the guidelines for him.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sent this, because I am not chasing down my kid in a town 2.5 hours away because this moron can't figure shit out.

As clarification, the Memorial Day weekend visitation begins Friday, 23 May at 6:00 pm and ends Monday, 26 May at 7:00 pm. I will plan on picking Teslet up at 7:00 pm on the 26th at your residence in YYY.
Pertaining to the summer visitation schedule: it was delivered to you according to the guideline's stipulations and this is what we will follow this summer. Should you have any further questions regarding this schedule, please refer them to your lawyer.
In the future (unless it is an emergency), please do not text me during the hours of 10:00 pm - 6:00 am.

His texts are on silent, but he doesn't know that and I'm tired of him sending me these crazy ass texts during hours that I am sleeping. (Every crazy ass text comes overnight.)

Shit. I can't believe I have 14 more years of this.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His texts are on silent, but he doesn't know that and I'm tired of him sending me these crazy ass texts during hours that I am sleeping. (Every crazy ass text comes overnight.)

Probably when stripperwhore is asleep and he's drunk, watching porn & feeling frustrated...so it's time to text Tesla, of course


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm, I think he may need some remedial math classes. Oh and a calendar class, definitely a calendar class. He may also need to have his ass handed to him. Cresus jist, just stop before you lose what few brain cells you have left.


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just have no words for this level of idiocy.

Does he not comprehend a school calendar?? Oh, wait- that's right... He lives in his own world where schedules are made on the fly.

Tesla, do you really think he is going to go camping out for 2 (or possibly 3) weeks with a baby and Teslet? I'd be really pissed about him arbitrarily making visitation demands too. That's not how this works!

I know this kind of contact is crazy making. I always remind myself that the rantings don't really mean shit, so then I relax and stop worrying.

Don't give this lunatic the head space.


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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