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User Topic: What I want to send to stbX
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am posting this here so I don't send it to STBX. Awfully tempted. And yes, I'm going in first thing on Monday to get my meds adjusted.

I hope your therapy is going well. I don't know, because you completely shut me out the last time I asked about family therapy. I sent you all the contact information. You have access to the kids' schedules. I have heard nothing back. Just so you are aware, I will be contacting your therapist to make sure that the boys are safe with you for unsupervised overnights.

I know you haven't asked and probably don't care, but my therapy has been sucessful in keeping us alive. I realize that the kids will need me for another fifteen years, until DS8 graduates from college. Maybe by then I will have found another reason to continue, like grandkids! That's the best that can be expected because I now know that there is only parental love. No one else can be trusted.

By "us", I mean you and I. Discovering that my life was built upon a lie has caused a lot of anger and pain. Romantic love is a mutual delusion, and it hurts alot when it is no longer mutual. I always thought that murder suicide was stupid and selfish. Now I understand the pain that can make it seem a reasonable course of action. Luckily, they make medications for that.

What they don't make medications for is the "Mama Bear" anger. I know that I fall somewhere below internet porn and above yard work on your list of priorities, but I had hoped that the kids were more important to you than that. I hope that the softball and bridge games that you put before time with your kids bring you happiness and fulfillment. I'm sure they are much more enjoyable than attending DS12's Band Concert, or DS8's Choir Musical.

As far as the Divorce goes, I honestly believe what I said about your lawyer wanting to jack up his fees. Your problem, not mine, except that his "renegotiating of things already decided" on the MSA, has also effected my legal fees. I have presented what I believe to be a reasonable MSA to my lawyer, who has given it to yours. You should have a copy by now. It is based on items we agreed to last Autumn.

If you do decide to renegotiate the financial part of our Divorce, that is your right. It is also my right to request that you cover half of my legal fees and an updated full financial disclosure, including your current earnings, expenses, savings, and IRA or 401k balances. I am not asking for anything that I cannot reasonably expect to get if we go to trial.



Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1973 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
lovehonorcherish
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! I'd love to send a letter just like this to my stbxh...or just smack him upside the head with a 2 x 4!! Are they all such asses or is that just my newly warped perception?


I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 125 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes they are. Pretty sure my perception is skewed, but if it is, I blame Dipshit STBX.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1973 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
southsidecali
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If crickets do not work for you and you have to send something send less. You are giving him your everything in that letter and it is painful to read, I am sorry. (((hugs))

I hope your therapy is going well. I sent you all the contact information. You have access to the kids' schedules.

As far as the Divorce goes, I have presented a reasonable MSA to my lawyer, who has given it to yours. You should have a copy by now. It is based on items we agreed to last Autumn.

But I probably wouldn't even send that.


Posts: 859 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: CA
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What I want to send to stbX

Maybe I'm just cranky, but this is what jumped into my mind:


Me: BS
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7849 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

woundedby OMG. Love it! You made me laugh!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1973 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
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