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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 20
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Re anniversary cards.


I'll bet at least two "To My Wife" cards are sold for every one directed,to husband from wife. It has been my experience, verified by a peer review of talking to my peers, that after a certain number,of years, it becomes "her" anniversary. She expects some token of love. The H may get lucky, but that doesn't cost her anything and she doesn't have to shop for it.

My wife supports Hallmark and even sends anniversary cards to some,of her girlfriends. How she remembers, I don't know. Maybe she stayed sober at the weddings.


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTH, maybe this year she is deserving of a blank inside card?


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yah, a blank card with some rubber dog poop. Signed thanks for crapping all over my/our life!


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

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WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rye, then I might be too tempted to write what I did here lol. As it is the one I got is something about us going together like PB&J. I'm already fighting the urge to write something about her being easy to spread


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony

2 Cor 12:9-10


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pure gold WTH


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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foundoutlater
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two quick thoughts

Why can't today be Friday

Dam page 50 already? Sure talk a lot here don't we

[This message edited by foundoutlater at 4:29 PM, June 26th (Thursday)]


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's kinda bad that we out talk the Wimmenz thread. Just sayin. Another stereotype busted!

Need to wake up WB or Defiler for the turn...it's beyond my modest posting capability.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go on vacation and I'm like 20 pages behind.
Bunch of chatty kathy's here.

Tred
Headed to the ManCave to find some images for the new ManCave.


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 543 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy
Think I've found something good here.
Not an early riser like you guys though, anything before 11:00 eastern your on your own.


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 543 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
Tred
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn. Close to the end of the thread so not the optimal time to post anything serious. But fuck it.

I was doing my usual laying in bed trying to go to sleep while triggering routine and had a thought. Our wives were William Tell in a blindfold. And we were the kid. Bear with me on this, and JJ, hold my beer.

Everyone knows the story - dad puts apple on kids head, splits apple, bad guy gets killed. And, he used a crossbow. That's what our spouses tried to do - split the apple, no harm, no foul. AKA we will never find out. But, with infidelity, the shot is unpredictable, like wearing a blindfold. I'm sure some of the women that cheat hit the apple. They are just really good cheaters.

Most of us though, our wives weren't experts at infidelity. They picked up the crossbow, blindfolded themselves, and let the bolt fly. They had no idea where it would hit. They were so confident that they could split the apple that not hitting it wasn't considered.

And...they missed. Some went wide left, some went wide right. Those guys? They aren't on SI. For whatever reason it didn't perturb them enough to seek out help. Again - no harm, no foul.

Some of them got winged though. We see those fellows pop through. And getting one in the bicep surely hurts like hell. Not life threatening, but oh my god it hurts. Most of these guys are great candidates for R. They understand they weren't meant to get hurt, that it had nothing to do with them. They were just a prop for the apple.

There's some head shots. Guys that never find SI. And are destroyed. Commit suicide, or murder suicide. Bad things happen.

And then there is what happened to most of us Menz. A heart shot. Not fatal - but life threatening. We will never be the same. William Tell shot his boy. The bad guy got away. No one likes to read that story, and it's why it's never told.

When our wives chose infidelity, they fired that crossbow. The moment the bolt left THERE WAS NOTHING THEY COULD DO TO PREDICT THE OUTCOME. They didn't know where it would hit. But all of them *knew* they would hit the apple. So they pulled the trigger blindfolded. Once the bolt left the crossbow, nothing could be undone. I think I'm haunted most by the moment she decided to pull the trigger with the blindfold on. If she had taken it off, I doubt she would of had the courage to try the shot. Just wishful thinking at this point.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will say for my WW Tred, that is wishful thinking.
Great analogy though. The funny thing is I played Gessler(The Bad Guy) in that play in elementary school. I didn't have to wear green paint, due to my skin color the director told me... Actually was glad about that...any way, in my case, eventually she had to take the blindfold off and shoot anyway because it was all about her from the beginning.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

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HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very deep Tred! Came real close to suicide a few months ago. Some very dark days indeed. Ended up walking over 40 miles in rough terrain over a 24 hours period and then got to spend some time in the hospital recovering. In a much better place now because she doesn't get to have any power over me.


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

William Tell in a blindfold

Not sure mine even bothered with blindfold, she was after her pound of flesh for me not being at her beckon call everytime she needed that emotional blackhole of hers filled.


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 543 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would have killed myself if it hadn't been for my dogs. Glad I didn't now. My life still isn't great, but she didn't get the satisfaction.

Good post, Tred. Something to ponder.


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stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I'm haunted most by the moment she decided to pull the trigger

Word, several years out here, and it's this that bothers me the most frequently. It's like a nagging realization of her character. You can't deny that shit, it fucking happened.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<<<hands Tred back his beer...
though it might taste a bit more salty mate,
I think it caught a tear.

Reminds me of my first post on menz
Where I was seeing all Cartesian
X, y, and z –ing

With arrow’s fletching
protruding from my chest,
how did 2nd wife
think it best?
What was in her mind
to shoot me from behind?

Sometimes I think me daft
to try to love once again
as true talking pen
sees, from above
sees, feathers fore and aft!
Still beerless my hands applaud thee
for the William Tell analogy,

for in truth
her blinded string release
with sharp feather’d shaft’s
soul piercing thwack in the back
slayed some barely known lesser me,
as reborn, survived,
I now see.

Then there's this;
I'm sure she's widely known
to Walmart checkers everywhere
as "Miss."

[This message edited by jjct at 5:19 AM, June 27th (Friday)]


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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 6:09 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well Gentlemen. Here on the East Coast of USA, it is Friday morning. I hope everyone has a blessed Weekend despite the sandwich you are eating.

Saturday is my best friends wedding and I am apart of that. Monday I am going to court house, and Tuesday on WW's birthday I am serving her.

I got a feeling she will just comply and leave it at that, unless I said I wanted custody of our daughter but I am not going to do that even though I think I should at times.

Besides the papers, should I actually get her anything for her Birthday?


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ummm...IMO, no. No gift. The D is enough.

What did you have in mind?


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LS-

No gift. You need to detach. She is (and truthfully, she really is) a stranger to you.

You need to show you're pissed. Our WW's replaced us. We owe them nothing!!

And in regards to the letter, it was heartfelt, but I agree with the don't send it camp. If they're willing to stray outside the marriage, a letter isn't going to break them down.


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min


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