Divorce was filed, but I'm willing to give her one more chance. I'm watching.
"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
She can still file complaint, but can't she take your word what was said in it ?
DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.
Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.
BTW, my stbxmil called me the other day saying she wanted to go see Godzilla with me (I had the kids but I would have gone if I had been able to, we always got along). She mentioned she had enough on OM to send him back to jail and she was just waiting for an excuse to use it, she wouldn't elaborate on specifics. I'm just glad I'm nowhere near that drama.
My anniversary is in 6 days. Crap.
So POSER wants to die? I'm cool with that. Sounds like he's a bug in search of a windshield, and likely enough to find one before too long.
My WW picked one of those "winners" too. A seriously committed serial adulterer, he admitted on his deathbed that he had nailed an average of one new woman a month for almost three decades. While he was married, and so were most of his AP's, including my WW.
He didn't particularly like married women, he was just lazy and in a hurry, and they were easier. It's a sad truth the BMenz have learned,
The easiest women in the world to fuck are married.
Check the parsing of this statement carefully. I'm not saying married women are easy, I'm saying easy women are often married. Especially if you're married too. Single women are mostly going to be wise to your shit.
Back to our sick POSER, do the math, and even allowing for a fair amount of boastful exaggeration, that's a frightening number. He admitted to being named in dozens of D's and a few suspected OC's. In biblical terms, EVIL.
But, he got caught by the windshield on the Karma Bus, and is getting run over in slow motion by a nasty, painful, and incurable form of cancer.
I'm cool with that.
Stay strong brother, YOU are better than all the shit that's swirling around you.
And on the email, I'd tell your WW about it and have her file a complaint, but I wouldn't read it to her, or let her read it. It's a test. Does she want you back enough to trust you on this?
[This message edited by MoreWould at 5:57 PM, May 19th (Monday)]
Hey SWAT, are you pursuing civil charges for the damage to the yard?
I think OM is bat shit crazy. Don't know when or how it happened and I honestly don't give a shit. I sent the wife and kids to the in laws. She tried to apologize and tried to comfort me but I had to cut her off. I have heard way to many I'm sorry's. They don't have much meaning for me right now.
I'm going out tonight. Wings and beer with some of the guys from work. Some of the couples from DC will be there. I've lined up my designated driver and right or wrong I'm getting shit faced. I've earned a good drunk if you ask me. I'm in pain already so what's a hangover.
Wishful thinking I know but a guys gotta have some dreams.
Lol, enjoy the night. Just be aware that a shit ton of emotions could be released. I know you're with people who do know, just warn them ahead. (I did, it actually was a release. Went stone sober for a year after that though)
so what's a hangover
Swat - get your drunk on. Self care matters. I think I've done that a time or two. Haven't regretted it yet. Nor do I expect to.
Drink the dregs of your anger swatman, taste it all.
Swallow the bug and shit it out, piss it all out, vomit it if you have to, I say, in the end - indifference is your destination. Indifference will be your destination when you're sober, it's the point on the map for you. Even though the path is twisted with all this, as vacation destinations go, there's none better. This bug doesn't deserve one more second's occupation in your lower colon or rectum. PUSH!
william - hope you're ok man- don't be skating all around lookin at all those eye talian ladies!
ive been 4 times now for a total of about 12 hours. the first few times i was a mess, could only concentrate on what i was doing and trying not to fall over the whole time. i had to react to everything as it came with little ability to look anywhere. now im getting to the point that i can see problems coming and manuever around them ... somewhat. on sunday i actually managed to pull off 4 out of 6 jumps.
its very, very relaxing going around and around and around. theres an old guy (a university physics professor now retired) who brings some great music there on a self charging stereo system hes built on his own. listen to light music and skate. go around a bit, come over to my daughter, chat to her as we go around, she zooms off, then talk to my wife a few times around, and then go around a few times on my own.
there is a married guy there that is cheating on his wife with one of the "regulars", its obvious how they interact. i see it as i go around and i dont like it. hes got kids too. his wife comes sometimes and has no clue.
my wife and i are working on her timeline together every other night. there are over SIXTY people on it that she behaved inappropriately in one way or another (everything from opening a window into our marriage, telling them what an a-hole i am, flirting with them ... all the way up to the 12 or so she was sexting, the 2 ONS guys, and the LTA guy ... and which of her friends knew what and when did they know it and how did they enable the affair). we are working chronological and doing it every other night for 2-4 hours a session. its got to all come out, its too much to come out in one go, its too intense to do it every night, but having it come out this way means that its like a slow trickle of diarehia into my mouth every other night each night we do it ... it gets worse and worse because her behavior during this two year period just kept getting worse and worse. we are a few days out from covering ONS 1 guy, perhaps a week after that we hit ONS 2 guy, and maybe 2 weeks after that we hit LTA guy (who i still know practically nothing about - other than reading my wifes emails to herself about him which almost destroyed me - her talking about how she woke up in bed next to me and saw it was me and realized it was the wrong guy in her bed, how she loved him, how she wished she had never met me or had our daughter ... all sorts of cheerful sh1t indeed).
i ran out of sleeping pills 2 nights ago. i discovered that i STILL cant sleep without them. me ... the guy who has always been able to roll over and get to sleep ... even the worst of it during the Corps never made me miss a heartbeats sleep. yet now ... i cant sleep without a freaking pill. it makes me very resentful and angry that i "need" them. im one of those people who never even took aspirin or pain killers or anything. yet i find that today im going to the dr to get another prescription. im also going to ask him for a mild anti anxiety or anti depressant too. it makes me very resentful and angry that i "need" them.
i didnt do anything that i should feel stressed out or anxiety or depressed about. i dont see why its fair that i should have to take stuff.
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
Coconut water, then some normal water with Advil and some light cardio will get you back to normal : ) BTDT.
ETA : Tred, no hangover ? Really ? What your secret ?
[This message edited by numb&dumb at 10:12 AM, May 20th (Tuesday)]
I think OM is bat shit crazy.
I think you're right. I also think his craziness and all the crap flowing from same is something that needs to be dealt with before decisions are taken about R or D or anything else
In other news, I moved over the weekend. This is the first place I've ever lived without STBXW since moving to the US almost six years ago. It feels very, very strange. Not necessarily bad, but very strange.
It's got a nice porch, though.
Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.
Tred, no hangover ? Really ? What your secret ?
[This message edited by Schadenfreude at 11:37 AM, May 20th (Tuesday)]