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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 20
Adeahan
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it was good, i really liked it, however...not enough monster fighting, my ultimate godzilla or giant monster/robot movie would get rid of the humans and just have them beating the shit out of each other for 2 hours.

[This message edited by Adeahan at 8:03 PM, May 18th (Sunday)]


Me 33, H 31,D-Day 03/30/14, Together 12 years, married 2, 3 kids, 3 dogs, Working on R
"nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"

Posts: 138 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario, Canada
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

'Han-

The best part of that skit is when he humps the Volcano at the end. Maybe I'm a fool (hint: definitely) but it always makes me giggle.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2086 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, driving a long way I
hit seek
a few times
and paused on this (was looking for 'talk' not music, still, I paused here and found my toes tapping) That's unusual, since I don't sing songs singers usually sing, and tbh, I'm afraid simple rhymers might ruin me with their drek in my ears, I found FUCK YOU! screaming so often (when I listened to others), I decided to not listen any more. It was better for me - to hear the thing inside
I needed
to survive. Still, sometimes things are herd - ya fuck you speling fuck you
HERD~!

I thought sunsets. Party at sunsets.

If you close youreyes, minus that DAM VERSE
Gonna put the the world away for a minute
Pretend I don't live in it
Sunshine gonna wash my blues away

Had sweet love but I lost it
She got too close so I fought her
Now I'm lost in the world trying to find me a better way

Wishing I was knee deep in the water somewhere
Got the blue sky breeze and it don't seem fair
Only worry in the world is the tide gonna reach my chair
Sunrise there's a fire in the sky
Never been so happy
Never felt so high
And I think I might have found me my own kind of paradise

Wrote a note said be back in a minute
Bought a boat and I sailed off in it
Don't think anybody gonna miss me anyway

Mind on a permanent vacation
The ocean is my only medication
Wishing my condition ain't ever gonna go away

Cause now I'm knee deep in the water somewhere
Got the blue sky breeze blowing wind through my hair
Only worry in the world is the tide gonna reach my chair
Sunrise there's a fire in the sky

Never been so happy
Never felt so high
And I think I might have found me my own kind of paradise

This champagne shore washing over me
It's a sweet sweet life living by the salty sea
One day you could be as lost as me
Change you're geography
Maybe you might be

Knee deep in the water somewhere
Got the blue sky breeze blowing wind through my hair
Only worry in the world is the tide gonna reach my chair
Sunrise there's a fire in the sky
Never been so happy
Never felt so high
_______________

See? or rather hear?

Toetappin though it may be, still,
it doesn't tell the whole story.
hint:
this is why I fuck you music most the time and don't listen to a single thing
She got too close so I fought her

glad it's true for him, in the end, not for me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJbG7256ZLY


Posts: 6592 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ida picked a different rhyme.

Posts: 6592 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and it's why I don't listen
to a single fuking thing.
If something's important, it will sound like william's fukinlightbulb.
An invisible stab to the abs that's what.

Posts: 6592 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Swat- good to see you here, a lot of great guys here. Sometimes you just need a guys take on things, more specifically guys that are/were in the same spot.

I like Sam too, but they stopped making noble Pilsner. I would drink that like bottled water (if I could and further if I could afford it). However I went the "Martoony" route this weekend. Back to beer once WNY weather warms up.

I get the mothers day thing. It feels good to do nice things for people. You handled it very well. Listen, you are still the same guy you were before, just in a different situation. The only way this crap beats you is if you let it change you. Keep your options open and protect yourself from further hurt. Live with no regrets on the things YOU are in control of.

It was mostly for the kids, but this is like starting a new relationship girlfriend with a past. These family "dates" are going to be very healthy for all of you. Reminds you of what is at stake here. Gives you a chance to see some positive qualities of your W (Mother interacting with kids), She gets time to prove she can and will change. If nothing else it helps to have a good co-parenting relationship. Everything you did not like about the old M can be changed.

PM if you want more detail I feel like I am going to keep typing and run this post in BM 21 !

My DD had her birthday party this weekend. It gave me time to reflect. I took stock and even though I feel that my W and I failed more than we succeeded, we got some things right. Your kids smiles and laughter are some of the best medicine. Later that night my W thanked me for not giving up on her. She said she is so sorry for hurting me so badly and working so hard to push me away all those years. She still feels that sting and hopes that I am happy. She cried a lot. It was kind of hard, but good to know she still thinks about it.

I told her that today was happy day and don't create sadness where it didn't belong. I thanked her for getting help to fix her shit and making a M that I wanted versus the old one that was killing me.

I think she gets it. Although I have trouble trusting that some of the time.

jjct- Sweet things on 20 !

Godzilla. Kids too young. Friends only like golf, lifting weights and chicken wings. None of those at the movies. Maybe date night, who knows? It looks awesome. Imax maybe ?


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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william
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Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

spent another 4 hours yesterday roller blading. ive fallen multiple times but yesterday was my first really really bad one - feet straight out and landed straight on my back. got up and kept skating. have to say that despite it all im really enjoying it.


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


Posts: 544 | Registered: Jan 2014
WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So yesterday I went to the comic con to get my geek on. First time I'd been to one and had a really good time. Got to geek out at some of the celebs there. Went to a Q&A with Alice Cooper that was really cool.

Then towards the end of the day, I was milling around the celeb autograph area on the way to get in line for the Star Trek Q&A when it happened. There she was right in front of me. Walking almost directly towards me. She passed so close I could've touched her. It was none other than Tasha Yar herself, Denise Crosby. I fumbled for my phone to get a picture to post here. I tried to find the words to tell her what an integral part of the Menz thread she had become, but alas, the moment passed too quickly and she was gone.I momentarily regretted not noticing her sooner. not being able to get a pic, not getting to speak to her. Then I realized she hadn't even acknowledged me or my needs. She went about fulfilling her own needs without any consideration of mine. It was all about her. Then it hit me. I'd been Tasha Yar'd.


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony

2 Cor 12:9-10


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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome SWAT. Lots of good old boys here who have weathered the shit storm and have different levels of tanned hide to show for it. It is nice to get a guys opinion on things and see that being you and caring for yourself is the path through this.
Nice to see you here. You have a lot to work through and these forums serve to give you lots of opinions, take what works leave the rest. You will learn there are those who grieve the death of their marriage and grow from it. There are those who have Wives who help, those who are non-remorseful self-centered and no help at all. Fact is you can get a life back on the other end, but it starts with getting back to you and learning about yourself.
WELCOME!


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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Hurthalo
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WearingtheHorns: Hahahahahaa! She Tasha Yar'ed you so bad man.....so bad!


Forgive the unforgivable, or bear the unbearable.

Me BS (34) WW (29)
Married 2 years
2y old Daughter
D-Day 05 Nov 13


Posts: 138 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Australia
william
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wth - lmfao. that gave me a serious laugh. priceless!


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


Posts: 544 | Registered: Jan 2014
5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTH,

And that^^^^^is how you reframe the issue!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

not enough monster fighting, my ultimate godzilla or giant monster/robot movie would get rid of the humans and just have them beating the shit out of each other for 2 hours.

That really sums it up, yep.

^ Still my favorite, mostly because it's 2 hours of monsters beating the shit out of each other with a cheesy as fuck scifi subplot. Also, flying submarines with drill noses.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTH!!!! dyin here

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess you have to be a Trekkie to really appreciate the TY reference. Still a cool story though.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

POSERS can't hide.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

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WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred, it goes back to around part 20 when Ascendent mentioned how Denise Crosby left, or got booted from Star Trek: Next Generation after getting a bit "me, me, me", not appreciating how good she had it, and how after she left the show her career became pretty much non-existant. Rather like a WS having the same attitude and finding themselves with nothing after dday.


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony

2 Cor 12:9-10


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTH - I remember that. But when you say Denise Crosby, first thing I think of is what does Bill's daughter have to do with this? It's a very apt description though. It just doesn't resonate as I never saw any of the next generation, or the first or subsequent ones for that matter. POSER works because I saw enough parodies of the original ST to know that the dude in the red shirt doesn't make it back and is a renewable resource.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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SWAT70
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OM wants to die. I just got an email from the POS. It was my wife's old email. I changed the password so she doesn't use it. I swear he is tying to push me over the edge. The email is to her and he is all apologetic over what he did. WTF I'm pissed beyond words right now.


Me BH-45. WW-39
DD-11 DS-6 DS-3
D day was Valentines day 2014. Talk about a trigger.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SWAT - doesn't this violate his RO? He sounds pathetic. Too bad you can't accidentally forward that e-mail to all his friends and family.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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