SWAT, the POSOM in your case is a male AP version of a "bunny boiler." That must add an extra layer of misery to what's already a terrible situation. Sorry you are going through this bro. Only suggestion is to press forward with the legal process and help him along his path of self-destruction.
OM is an shit stain, fucktard of a co@$ sucker.
I admire your restraint. But words really don't adequately describe someone that selfish and depraved. Sounds like he's actually getting off on your distress. There's a special place in hell for people like this. Strength...
ME: Seriously??? You need to set up your new internet service at 11 pm?
xWW: Well my data is almost over the limit on my phone and I need to set up my wifi.
ME: I'm not giving you my password, I still use it for multiple accounts.
xWW: Well can you come over and change it?
ME: Maybe....TOMORROW at a decent hour, if at all. Why is this so important at 11pm?
xWW: I wanted to facetime my mom.
ME: Just call her like normal people do. BTW, probably not a good idea to call her at 11pm either.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
SWAT, the POSOM in your case is a male AP version of a "bunny boiler." That must add an extra layer of misery to what's already a terrible situation.
Amen, this guy lacks any rational thought. Makes you wonder how he was able to work his job with such poor decision making skills.
Selfish much! I would sit back laugh and relax. See wanted out, she can figure her own life challenges now. I wouldn't enable her requests. But it would be cool to see how she remedies the situation.
Maybe....TOMORROW at a decent hour, if at all.
Swat- he isn't worth the mental energy it takes to hate him. Living life like that . . .well, there won't be anyone to mourn his passing when that day comes. It will be like he never existed at all.
I have no memory of my "best" golf games. It is the way nature intended. Kind of like hormones that make women forget the pain of childbirth, but with fancier containers.
LHAP? good to hear man. Having her realize it on her own is encouraging, yes ? Guys day sounds awesome.
DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.
Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.
Tell her there are computer specialists who for a fee will be happy to solve her computer problem. You're not sure you can do it, right?
If you start being her handyman, you'll have a full time, guaranteed job, but one that pays zilch. Read up on "beta orbiters" on Google links and pay attention to how women love to have them available for jobs such as this.
BTW, change your passwords before she gets into the system.
No1, How many other passwords would you have to change just to give her that one? N/C bro. Are you sure she wasn't using the acronym? MOM? 11pm?
N & D, that truly is as it should be!
Ok, there are some beautiful courses out there that were/are meant to be enjoyed. I just have an issue *seeing* out of the tree's! Which then leads to just *seeing* in general, which leads to...
or, *Here, hold my beer!*
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"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
No1 - That is messed up. She called you, why can't she just call her frickin' mom? Sounds like a bullshit story to me, or she was just trying guilt/hoover you back into coming to her beck and call. Good for you for putting your foot down.
WTH - That sucks, man. I can see how you would feel nervous as soon as the ship launched. Hope everything turns out okay. Sending strength, peace, and beer.
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Glad you and SLHim had a good time on her b-day.
See, that's why I hang here.
To learn new words!
And for the beer...
In ancient times,
when men waved sticks at the sky,
and shouted many names of God,
it was called "religion".
it's called "golf"...
I figure marriage is like a deck of cards.
Starts out with two hearts and a diamond,
I just want a fucking club and a spade...
There ya go.
Happy Friday boys!
@WTH - I feel for ya buddy. I'll be thinking about you this week. Hopefully you can pull through without your nerves being totally shot. I've been mostly keeping quite on the cruise sitch but I have been following. I'm kinda disappointed in your WW. I'll be having a bourbon for you tonight...maybe a Manhattan.
@Losfer - Thoughts will definitely be with you this weekend too.
@No1 - Really messed up dude. She's toying with you. F her.
@SWAT - is your safety on? Have a great weekend with your kids. Enjoy them.
For everyone...still early on a Fri. Anyone up for some breakfast?
When I asked FWW about what I found on her phone she was not apologetic. When I asked her why she felt I had been an ass at the wedding she said because I was not there and did not make her feel happy. I pointed out I was there, and she said I did not talk to people. I asked why she did not talk with me if she thought I was being an ass, and she then went to the “it always all about Atsenaotie” defense, that I claim to never do anything wrong.
When I asked about the cheapskate comment she said that I always told her there was no money for a new car, it was my fault. I asked her where she thought the money was with her unemployed much of the time and a child in school and she admitted that we have been tight on money the last few years.
She asked why I looked at her phone when I did, and I told her about the recent behaviors that caused me to feel unsafe in the M, behaviors that were very similar to behaviors before dday. She acknowledged that she thought some of her recent behaviors might trigger me, and then went on to say that she knew I would never be over what she did in her As.
She believes that my expectation that she not complain about me and the marriage to people outsider the M and people who are not friends of the M is unrealistic, that it is a Pollyannaish view. She believes that my expectation that we support and be open and honest with each other is unrealistic. She thought that after nearly 5 years things would be better, but that they are not, she belives that I will never forget or forgive her for what she did in the As.
I think that I am finally done. Financially this will be painful, and it is D or nothing as there is no legal separation here in Fl. I am really disappointed. I really wanted this to work, but needed FWW to do her part.
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It's got to be a shitty moment when you realize that that your WW has really just been paying lip service to remorseful, healthy behaviors in order to patronize you for all these years. Strength, my friend.
Just wondering, based on her recent comments, do you really believe that she ever really *got it* or was she able to *mask* herself? Here's the one I'm almost scared to ask. Were you projecting actions/behaviors onto her that just weren't there because you wanted R so badly? I'm asking because I could easily see myself doing that.
I hope her head snaps out of her ass for you.