Sisoon, DGD was just scheduled for delivery on the 28th. I wish I could be there with y'all, but my first grand-daughter needs to take precedence. I'll post pics and expect the same in return. Next year buddy.
Thanks again guys.
ETA, whoops, the 27th.
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Have more I want to cover but no time right now. Getting ready to go to niece's graduation. Have a great day gents!
"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
Whenever I get a chance to stop by a yard sale, I pick out the old history and literature books - the ones from schools, the thick ones. I look for old football history books too. Coaching, styles of coaching etc. is another hobby of mine.
There's a HS nearby that runs a throwback offense (from the 30's!) that I love to watch in the fall.
Those old guys that came back from winning the war - many of them became coaches, and shaped the lives of generations. I'm kind of a hoarder, of wisdom and experience. I feel it's a tragedy when it's lost. The skills contained in old healers' hands, like Bonesetter Reese - where did it go?
Louie Zamperini, Bud Day...those were men. I don't feel fit to shine their shoes.
Thoughts are with brother saveus this morning since his sitch blew up last night in JFO.
Was thinking about my grandfather in law yesterday. He survived the sixth wave on D Day and suffered through severe PTSD for his entire life.
@TTS - yeah, that anger can be a bitch to deal with sometimes. If you have to, it's almost best to remove yourself from the situation if you can...more so when things get really heard. During those moments absolutely nothing can be constructive.
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I'm worried about saveus as well. I'm scared for his kids, honestly.
I've been thinking about him all morning. Followed his story from day 1. Really really sucks for his son. I hope he listens and gets the help that he needs.
Still worried about saveus since no updates. Not like him to go that long.
Ascendant, I just don't get the diet soda with alcohol....
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I worry also. Haven't posted much to his thread because in all honesty, there was no way he wanted to *hear* what we were saying. All the classical signs of an abuse victim. Fortunately, I was awake when his post came through. See how the advice, shouted, at that, was blithely ignored and then tried to make light of it? He needs help. Right now, we can't give it. An abuse victim has to hit *that* point themselves. Rarely will words change their mind.
2 reasons I usually stop giving advice in a thread. 1. They go on forever refusing to listen or 2. So many people are posting there is nothing else I can add. Doesn't mean I don't stop following or rooting for them.
Locked within the fire's glow
the secrets of ancients burn
In night burning billions of blisters of light
whispers the wind
she says go.
Something's breaking, something's coalescing within me...
If my mind could take pictures,
to give to all I know
I'd print the early morningsongs
of new day dawning's show.
Before a bird's eye opens
before their song is heard
a magical silence is singing outside
I can't find a word, but
a black and white for tentacles
clutching icily to the trees, or
a color print,
for the brilliant sunrise
which exists I'm sure
only to please.
I'll probably go to a nuthouse
for ranting and raving fore dawn
keep clicking along
singing my song
laughing wildly on somebody's lawn.
The poetry of a man divided against himself
does not have the power
of the simplest tribal song.
I heard this said.
All this is coming out because my estranged brother recently contacted me out of the blue...
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Happy very belated bday 5545 and congrats grandpa to be
Hope everyone finds some good for themselves today. Got to refuel for the week ahead. Happy Sunday.
I need to fuel up for a golf tourney today. Annual husband/wife championship at the club - Sand and I are the reigning champs (net 57 last year). It's great to be able to use her tee shot!
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
I hope him and his son are ok.
Me BS (34) WW (29)
Married 2 years
2y old Daughter
D-Day 05 Nov 13
Congrats on Baby and Bday!
Happy Bday 5454 ! Congrats on the Grand baby too.
Losfer- Doing well. All around. I kept steady on only focusing on my issues and what I can control. Only way to win the "game" is to not play
Ditto on saveus. Like many others all we can do is to try and show he is supported here. It is easy to give advice with our collective wisdom here, but how many of us had to learn things the hard way ? His seems like is slowly getting to a point of filing. The abuse. Having the FOOs I do . . .well it hurts too much to think about . . . I know I am safe and my kids won't witness or experience anything like that. That is all I can do.
DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.
Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.
So, the graduation on Saturday was a graduation. However, the valedictorian's speech really stood out to me. He was funny, self-deprecating, but when he really got into the meat of his speech I was pretty impressed. Basically he said he wasn't going to feed them the usual "Reach for the stars" cliches. What he did tell them in the course of his speech was, you're going to fail at some point in your life. Probably more than once. Don't let those failures define you. Learn from them and use them. I thought it was a pretty damn good message coming from an 18 y.o.
After the graduation we went to the graduation party. I didn't know most of the people there, but since it was WW's SIL's family that's no surprise. There was one particular woman there that I kept getting a "disturbance in the force" type feeling from. WW told me she was her SIL's step-sister, half-sister, she wasn't really sure exactly what the relationship was. When we were introduced she told me she'd heard about me from SIL. I figured that was no big deal, SIL and I hit it off well from when we met, and she had told WW when we were dating she needed to make sure to not let me get away. So through the day this woman and I would cross paths and have some brief idle chat for a moment. Then later in the day, I had refilled my drink and she was talking to someone and had a fly swatter that looked like a big hand she was playing around with. When I was walking by she said something and brandished the fly swatter. I kind of blew it off. I don't remember what she said next, but it was obviously "I'm going to spank you" type flirting. Her H was a few feet away, and when she said that I simply walked away and avoided her the rest of the day. It really pissed me off. To be honest, she's good looking so part of my ego was wanting to play along, but there was no way I was going to get sucked into that, regardless of how innocent it might've been intended to be. I know it wasn't like she came on to me like a drunk prom date, but even that little bit was more than I could stand. I couldn't help but feel a little sorry for her H also. I just pray that anything she does like that's just innocent flirting and that he doesn't one day find himself here.