Also my 51st b-day. Gentlemen, first rounds on me. Numb, I'll set one aside for you! Happy weekend Gents.
Cheers to ya!
Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."
I'd love a scotch!
I'm 45, WW is 36. Marriage #2 for us both. My first one lasted 16 years, had two boys, and it ended with her banging her best friends hubby. Been married to #2 just short of 5 years.
DDay was 10 weeks ago. I caught her having a 13 month affair with a little prick she worked with who masqueraded as my friend.
Were R'ing, so far so good. Got into MC right away. I just need a place to vent sometimes, and feel like I'm understood. I don't think I could find a better place. Just lurking this thread was helpful, some smart dudes here.
Wanna here the funniest thing? WW's first marriage cratered after 4 years cuz hub#1 cheated. I thought she was so safe to marry because she'd been cheated on too, and knows how it feels...boy was I wrong! Kicked her out the minute I caught her, that cleared the fog like no other. Outed OM to his wife (also a "friend") watching these two throw each other under the bus was almost comical, if it wasn't so pathetic. Outed them to their boss too. They were put on notice and had to both sign a contract stating any more non work related contact and they are both fired.
No kids, no long history...I'm giving her a chance because I love the shit out of her. I ran like a mofo out of the first one and never dealt with my feelings at all. Anyway, I let her come home after a week, and according to our MC, we are doing amazing. I wish I felt amazing.
Every day is a struggle, through all the trauma, sleeplessness and not eating, look good too after losing 25lbs. Now it's mostly anger, working through it before blowing up at her is a challenge.
What are the membership requirements for this thread? It looks like all one qualifies by registering on SI and claiming to be male.... Have any women ever been found to be masquerading as men here or an SI in general? (I'm not talking about people in transition or gender-dysmorphic; I'm asking about jokers & liars?) Just curious....
W & I got our degrees on this day in 1966. We might have gotten engaged on this day in '67, but I think it was the 7th - 6/7/67.
They were put on notice and had to both sign a contract stating any more non work related contact and they are both fired.
I like that requirement. I wonder how the company is in other respects....
[This message edited by sisoon at 5:57 PM, June 6th (Friday)]
& welcome TTS, *glad* you found us, pull up a beer and have a chair.
hmm...a calendar...hmmm, lemme think on it...
Still love the way ya nail it wal. We gots to have us a "wall of wal" -
You too Tred!
Have any women ever been found to be masquerading as men here or an SI in general?
I did have a wife that masqueraded as a human once though...
TTS - Our stories have many similarities. Anger is part of healing, so best thing is to experience it fully so eventually, you won't have to (much) anymore. Allow yourself to feel it. Just you know, control the expressions a bit if it tends to possess you. You possess it. Coldly - eventually. It fades brother. We don't get over this shit, we get through it.
[This message edited by jjct at 6:38 PM, June 6th (Friday)]
You too Tred!
This never fails to make me laugh.
Sapphire for me. Nothing like cold Gin on a warm day.
And yes, when it's Sapphire you are required to capitalize the "G"
Welcome TTS. These are some of the wisest men I've never had the pleasure to drink with.
Happy birthday 54.
[This message edited by sunsetslost at 6:40 PM, June 6th (Friday)]
Gauddammit Sal, first your making love, now your giving enough of a shit to give her not one but three orgasms. Your killing me here. In all honestly couldn't give monkey's ass right now if she gets off.
I understand DR. My problem is simple, but hard to solve. WW makes me hotter than a firecracker. Since the moment I laid eyes on her. When she was 23, and when she turned 42, and every year in between. When she was overweight after having babies, when she was a skinny senior in college, and when she got skinny again after her apparent MLC. It doesn't seem to matter. The chemistry is amazing. It was during her A, as sick as that makes me feel now. Whatever was going on with her and OM, it wasn't about sex with her unless she's a Meryl Streep-calibre actress (and I don't discount any possibility). I think it was about dancing, validation, ego stroking, acting like everyone else in her family acted at the same age, cake-eating, whatever.
But if I am going to R with a WW, then I'm going to have lots of fun where I can find it. It's funny, but at some point around D Day I became the most attractive stud on the planet (in her eyes, not that I am in reality). What the hell, might as well go with it.
I heard on the news today that there are 33 sets of American brothers buried together at Normandy. It's impossible to contemplate the agony their parents must have experienced. It's a reminder that no matter how badly this particular Band of Brothers hurts because of our wives' actions, there are people throughout history who have experienced pain that is exponentially worse. Hurt, rage, feel your pain, but never forget that things could be much worse.
Welcome TTS. I often think the A my WWs first husband had was a factor in her A. Yes she should have understood the pain, but I'm not certain she healed correctly. Add that with a helping of FOO and I got automatic club membership. I wouldn't wish the pain of infidelity on anyone.
Here's a toast to taking care of ourself first and realizing that doing just that is enough.
I have mixed emotions today.
It's depressing. Every. One. I asked @ the significance of this date didn't know. I went so far as to express an "opinion" in a business setting mindyou, that history is mainly taught to be boring (God blessed you if you had a good history teacher!) - so that people are not taught to recognize evil so readily, and that they can be more easily led. Like sheep to the slaughter.
In honor of all that
My Dad loved The White Cliffs of Dover by Matthew Arnold.
The good thing. The amazing and surprising thing that happened today is that my older brother, whom I have been estranged from for @ 20 yrs, called me at my work today. We talked for a few minutes - he's in Afghanistan - sheesh! and we might be able to gtg next month. I even called my stepmother (been silent running for @ that long too). Days are interesting at chez jj.
Love ya Sal.
Right back at ya, jj.
Happy BDay 545!
TTS - sounds like you know what you're doing.
Hope you gents are enjoying your evening - love the pic of Koda Los.
I hope to meet you, with brand new photos, in a few weeks.
Ah, yessss. Hot day, Sapphire, Rose's Lime Juice or a hint of vermouth....
I don't drink much, but settling down with a bottle of CC and some diet 7UP tonight. Catching up on the thread here. Hope everyone is well.