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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 20
5454real
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today, the Allied powers invaded Normandy with the largest landing force ever fielded in the first step of removing Adolph Hitler from power. Thereafter known as D-Day....Is it a coincidence that the worst day of our lives is also known as D-Day? Hmmmm.....

Also my 51st b-day. Gentlemen, first rounds on me. Numb, I'll set one aside for you! Happy weekend Gents.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2872 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday, 54!!!

Cheers to ya!


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday, 5454. Hope you're having a great one. And thanks for the D Day reference. 70 years ago today.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling
PM's w/ male members only please

Posts: 1409 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy birthday 54

Cheers....


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


Posts: 543 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Two blocks from south shit and west hell
Twotimesucker
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Guys,

I'd love a scotch!

I'm 45, WW is 36. Marriage #2 for us both. My first one lasted 16 years, had two boys, and it ended with her banging her best friends hubby. Been married to #2 just short of 5 years.
DDay was 10 weeks ago. I caught her having a 13 month affair with a little prick she worked with who masqueraded as my friend.

Were R'ing, so far so good. Got into MC right away. I just need a place to vent sometimes, and feel like I'm understood. I don't think I could find a better place. Just lurking this thread was helpful, some smart dudes here.

Wanna here the funniest thing? WW's first marriage cratered after 4 years cuz hub#1 cheated. I thought she was so safe to marry because she'd been cheated on too, and knows how it feels...boy was I wrong! Kicked her out the minute I caught her, that cleared the fog like no other. Outed OM to his wife (also a "friend") watching these two throw each other under the bus was almost comical, if it wasn't so pathetic. Outed them to their boss too. They were put on notice and had to both sign a contract stating any more non work related contact and they are both fired.

No kids, no long history...I'm giving her a chance because I love the shit out of her. I ran like a mofo out of the first one and never dealt with my feelings at all. Anyway, I let her come home after a week, and according to our MC, we are doing amazing. I wish I felt amazing.

Every day is a struggle, through all the trauma, sleeplessness and not eating, look good too after losing 25lbs. Now it's mostly anger, working through it before blowing up at her is a challenge.


Me BS-45
Her WW-36
D-Day3/31/14
Working towards R

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome, tts.
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What are the membership requirements for this thread? It looks like all one qualifies by registering on SI and claiming to be male.... Have any women ever been found to be masquerading as men here or an SI in general? (I'm not talking about people in transition or gender-dysmorphic; I'm asking about jokers & liars?) Just curious....
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W & I got our degrees on this day in 1966. We might have gotten engaged on this day in '67, but I think it was the 7th - 6/7/67.
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They were put on notice and had to both sign a contract stating any more non work related contact and they are both fired.

I like that requirement. I wonder how the company is in other respects....

[This message edited by sisoon at 5:57 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That Doryman's looks real gud DR, (better than, what was that? Bite me?)
& HAPPY BIRTHDAY 54!
What a Day to have it on!
Thank God for those brave men! Their sacrifice means everything!

& welcome TTS, *glad* you found us, pull up a beer and have a chair.

hmm...a calendar...hmmm, lemme think on it...
Still love the way ya nail it wal. We gots to have us a "wall of wal" -

Cheers gentleman!
You too Tred!


Posts: 6617 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have any women ever been found to be masquerading as men here or an SI in general?

I'd be willing to bet it's happened, but given the quality of the bosses, mods, and guides & the way it's run @ here, I doubt if they lasted very long.

I did have a wife that masqueraded as a human once though...

TTS - Our stories have many similarities. Anger is part of healing, so best thing is to experience it fully so eventually, you won't have to (much) anymore. Allow yourself to feel it. Just you know, control the expressions a bit if it tends to possess you. You possess it. Coldly - eventually. It fades brother. We don't get over this shit, we get through it.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

& TTS - a toast to you! For decisive action.
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[This message edited by jjct at 6:38 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


Posts: 6617 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheers gentleman!
You too Tred!


This never fails to make me laugh.

Sapphire for me. Nothing like cold Gin on a warm day.

And yes, when it's Sapphire you are required to capitalize the "G"

Welcome TTS. These are some of the wisest men I've never had the pleasure to drink with.

Happy birthday 54.

[This message edited by sunsetslost at 6:40 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 761 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred's probably on Lud Bight #3 by now, give him a break.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling
PM's w/ male members only please

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gauddammit Sal, first your making love, now your giving enough of a shit to give her not one but three orgasms. Your killing me here. In all honestly couldn't give monkey's ass right now if she gets off.

I understand DR. My problem is simple, but hard to solve. WW makes me hotter than a firecracker. Since the moment I laid eyes on her. When she was 23, and when she turned 42, and every year in between. When she was overweight after having babies, when she was a skinny senior in college, and when she got skinny again after her apparent MLC. It doesn't seem to matter. The chemistry is amazing. It was during her A, as sick as that makes me feel now. Whatever was going on with her and OM, it wasn't about sex with her unless she's a Meryl Streep-calibre actress (and I don't discount any possibility). I think it was about dancing, validation, ego stroking, acting like everyone else in her family acted at the same age, cake-eating, whatever.

But if I am going to R with a WW, then I'm going to have lots of fun where I can find it. It's funny, but at some point around D Day I became the most attractive stud on the planet (in her eyes, not that I am in reality). What the hell, might as well go with it.

I heard on the news today that there are 33 sets of American brothers buried together at Normandy. It's impossible to contemplate the agony their parents must have experienced. It's a reminder that no matter how badly this particular Band of Brothers hurts because of our wives' actions, there are people throughout history who have experienced pain that is exponentially worse. Hurt, rage, feel your pain, but never forget that things could be much worse.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling
PM's w/ male members only please

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HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy birthday 54!

Welcome TTS. I often think the A my WWs first husband had was a factor in her A. Yes she should have understood the pain, but I'm not certain she healed correctly. Add that with a helping of FOO and I got automatic club membership. I wouldn't wish the pain of infidelity on anyone.

Here's a toast to taking care of ourself first and realizing that doing just that is enough.


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love ya Sal.
My Dad was a navigator on a bomber. Never knew which one (probably a B29) as he was the kind that wouldn't talk about it. "Hey Dad, where'd that blue scar on your forehead come from?" was met by nope, "I won't talk about it." He never did.
He taught himself calculus to do it too.
Truly I do - stand on the shoulders of GIANTS.

I have mixed emotions today.
It's depressing. Every. One. I asked @ the significance of this date didn't know. I went so far as to express an "opinion" in a business setting mindyou, that history is mainly taught to be boring (God blessed you if you had a good history teacher!) - so that people are not taught to recognize evil so readily, and that they can be more easily led. Like sheep to the slaughter.

In honor of all that
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My Dad loved The White Cliffs of Dover by Matthew Arnold.

The good thing. The amazing and surprising thing that happened today is that my older brother, whom I have been estranged from for @ 20 yrs, called me at my work today. We talked for a few minutes - he's in Afghanistan - sheesh! and we might be able to gtg next month. I even called my stepmother (been silent running for @ that long too). Days are interesting at chez jj.


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love ya Sal.

Right back at ya, jj.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling
PM's w/ male members only please

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sisoon had a pretty good post about D-Day about a year or two ago. Ever since reading sisoon's post, I've always referred to my own d-day as "d-day" in lower case. There is a reason for that distinction between D-Day, and d-day, for me.

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lud Bight #whatever actually...and damn JJ - Dripping Springs? I can't find it up here! You tease you.

Happy BDay 545!

TTS - sounds like you know what you're doing.

Hope you gents are enjoying your evening - love the pic of Koda Los.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Step grandfather Bob was a side gunner on a B-17. Told me a story about shooting skeet from the back of a truck in training to work on moving while shooting at a moving target. Like most WW 2 airmen he has no interest in flying ever again. "I flew when I was a young man."


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes! Sorry I missed the line about your birthday, 54. Happy Birthday!

I hope to meet you, with brand new photos, in a few weeks.
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Ah, yessss. Hot day, Sapphire, Rose's Lime Juice or a hint of vermouth....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Long, gross day at work gentlemen.

I don't drink much, but settling down with a bottle of CC and some diet 7UP tonight. Catching up on the thread here. Hope everyone is well.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

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