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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 20
SWAT70
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Evening gentlemen. I just had to pop in to say hello. I would buy the first round, but I can't stick around. I'm at Chuck e chesse with the kids. They wanted to cook out but it's raining. Those of you that know what happened I just wanted to thank you and let y'all know my kids seem to be alright. My daughter is very clingy today though. Gonna have to talk to her alone in a while. Catch ya later.


Me BH-45. WW-39
DD-11 DS-6 DS-3
D day was Valentines day 2014. Talk about a trigger.

Divorce was filed, but I'm willing to give her one more chance. I'm watching.


Posts: 329 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Down range
5454real
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would buy the first round, but I can't stick around. I'm at Chuck e chesse with the kids

Of the two, my vote would be to do exactly what you are doing.
Gonna have to talk to her alone in a while.

Please be VERY careful with this. Reassure her, don't assume she knows anything......Oh hell, I'm telling a cop this? Brother, just be careful what you reveal. Once said, it can't be taken back.

Enjoy the kids.

Strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2800 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Crumbled324
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Evening gents. Taking my 7 year old daughter to see Raiders of the Lost Ark in the big screen tonight - quality time!


BH: 46
fWW: 45
Beautiful 8 year old daughter
Married 22 years, Together 28 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Michigan
Crumbled324
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Evening gents. Taking my 7 year old daughter to see Raiders of the Lost Ark on the big screen tonight - quality time!


BH: 46
fWW: 45
Beautiful 8 year old daughter
Married 22 years, Together 28 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Michigan
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey SWAT! Good to hear from you. I was sitting at Chuck-e-Cheese last Friday when I was reading your posts. It has been quite a week for you. I agree with 54... definitely let your daughter do the talking. Pretty sure you are on the ball and have that covered, though.

Damn damn damn damn DAMN! As a side effect of my surgery, I hurt my back - L4-L5-sciatic nerve. Physical Therapy today, and Medicare won't pay for 2 clinic visits the same day. No OT today. No splint for bike riding.

Shit, man! I am really sorry to hear that, sisoon. Hoping they can work it out for you, and you can get back on your bike in no time.

I'm very grateful for everything the SI Staff does, but, you know, I wonder if some of 'em don't really understand men....

Nah... I've gotten to know all of them really well, and they are all very understanding regardless of gender. Awesome folks, every single one. Unless you were talking about me?!?


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah, my son's friends have gone home. Time to meander down to the beer fridge.

Where in the hell has Uncle Tred been, anyway?


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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very grateful for everything the SI Staff does, but, you know, I wonder if some of 'em don't really understand men....

I know I sure don't


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37134 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
ForwardMotion
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy weekend guys. Having my homebrewed double IPA and playing fetch with my deaf Australian shepherd. Fww is making homemade pizza.

The IPA turned out great. Really hoppy and 8% ABV.

Peace to all. To the newer guys, one way or the other, it does get better. Hang in there.

FM


me - BH

'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'


Posts: 409 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Tejas
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That brew sounds really good, FM. Takes a lot of hops to still keep it hoppy @ 8% ABV. That is my kind of brew.

I am sipping on a glass of 20yo Glen Keith. Smoove.

Hope you all have a fantastic weekend. I'll be mowing the grass and putting in some mulch tomorrow. Looking forward to getting a sun burn after having more snow this week.


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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went to a concert with the kids. STBXWW bought the tickets. Funny story about that..

About a week ago stbxww asked me to switch over DD8 for one day (while I kept our Special Needs DS10) so she could go to a concert with DD8. I'm very aware of her selfishness and boundary violations (second time in a very short time she does this, commits time for the kids with her during my parenting time, and this time it's also treating me as a free babysitter), so I told her I'd rather do full days and both kids because it was easier to track, and offered a date in exchange if she wanted to have both kids. She said it didn't work, because "DS10 wouldn't do well", and withdrew her request.

This AM she offered to drop the box of their toys and medicines at my house (we're S). I happened to be at home. She asked if I was home and I said yes (I was cleaning the kitchen). She left the box outside and said she knocked and waited a minute but I was "busy". I told her that it was fine either way, but there is a working doorbell (I didn't hear the knock).

She brought up the concert again. She said she'll be giving the tickets away. She offered them to me. I said I'd be delighted to take both my kids. I told her that I have taken DD10 to movies and while he doesn't make it the whole way, he does have fun and enjoys the events.

Bottom line, she's so selfish she doesn't understand that it's overall good for him anyway, and if babysitting falls through, you can always go with both kids and another adult (her mom lives with her). But because she can't be interrupted to actually be a mom while taking the kids to a fun thing, she doesn't see that it's perfectly possible for two adults to take two kids and for one of the adults to leave the place with one kid for a walk while the other adult+kid continue to be at the event.

The Wayward fog permeates everything they do. Tragic for my kids, but hey, free tickets for us! Though I'll probably pay her for the tickets. Hate to think I owe her anything.

DS10 did great. He was able to handle half an hour wait, and half an hour of the 1 hour 10 minute concert, after which my dad took him home while still happy. And he had a blast, jumping and "stimming" without anybody caring since everyone else was jumping to the music as well.. And DD8 called it the "best day ever". I'd say that's a win for both kids.

"DS10 wouldn't do well" my arse...


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 718 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GotPlayed,
Will you just get it over with already? Change the screen name! Dammit, Well Played sir, Well Played.

Thank you.

[This message edited by 5454real at 11:45 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2800 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Adeahan
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well done and glad the kids had fun.



Me 33, H 31,D-Day 03/30/14, Together 12 years, married 2, 3 kids, 3 dogs, Working on R
"nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it aint about how hard you hit. Its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"

Posts: 138 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario, Canada
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry I wasn't around for the 'flip guys...it happened while I was in the middle of work.

I just wanted to say to SWAT- You are dealing with a hell of a shitstorm, brother, especially in regards to the POSER. I don't know if I could've handled it half as well as you already have. Well done.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2064 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn gents, I missed the flip as well! Been traveling for work. Supposed to catch a flight Wednesday morning for a 22:30 meeting in Savannah. The plane broke and the flight was cancelled. But I had meetings in Savannah that night and Augusta the next morning. Road trip. I'm outside of Jacksonville now and heading back to VA tomorrow so I haven't been on much.

Welcome to our new brothers - sorry to see new members but glad they found us. Going to go golfing this afternoon and enjoy being alive. Self care can't be underestimated. Do something for you and don't even think about feeling guilty for a second.


You guys sure talk a lot!

Flagged for generalizing


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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william
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

spent 3 hours roller blading today with the wife and daughter. my wife started as a child. my daughter started a month or so ago.

its the 4th time ive ever done it. im just now starting to develop a sense of balance on them. its very relaxing and therapeutic going around and around the track. id recommend it.


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


Posts: 543 | Registered: Jan 2014
ForwardMotion
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That brew sounds really good, FM. Takes a lot of hops to still keep it hoppy @ 8% ABV. That is my kind of brew.

I used a combined 6 oz of 4 different hops, including 2 dry hoppings. It's a Pliny knock-off. It appears to have worked. Next I'm making a Bell's Two Hearted Ale. Another I can't get in Texas.

[This message edited by ForwardMotion at 1:41 PM, May 17th (Saturday)]


me - BH

'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'


Posts: 409 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Tejas
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred-

Savannah is one of the most beautiful cities I've ever had the good fortune to visit. Loved it.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2064 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
ForwardMotion
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

+1 on Savannah

I'm headed to Des Moines(!) next week to see my youngest son run in the State track meet. He'll be running in the Big 10 next year. I'm REALLY proud of him.

I'm also really proud of fWW. The last few years have been really rough. Immediately after the infidelity, she hit menopause with a fervor and in tandem couldn't get her anti-depressant regulated. Rough times. After a couple docs and trial-and-errors, we seem to have a cocktail that works. She is a different person. In a good way.

Life feels pretty good right now.


me - BH

'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'


Posts: 409 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Tejas
ForwardMotion
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

william - glad the blading is working for you. I gave it up as it seemed a good way to help my doctor's cash flow. You keep hanging in there with your situation.

SWAT - I'm sorry your situation is so messed up. You seem like a really stand-up guy. You'll figure out the right thing for you and your kids.

Peace to all. The sidewalk edging awaits. And then another of my brews.


me - BH

'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'


Posts: 409 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Tejas
Tred
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Savannah is beautiful - I stay down in the historic district by the river. Had dinner at Churchill's Pub. Love the bar in there - it was brought over from England. Wish I had more down time to enjoy it. Hanging with my Sis now down outside of Jax...drinking beer and watching golf. Going to play a round later. Life could be worse.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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