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User Topic: Hugs &/or Mojo Please. Seeing abusive xpos later?
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As I said in my earlier thread, I will likely see my abusive xpos and slut tonight and definitely will tomorrow. My friends who promised to "stick to me like glue" can't be here now.

Tomorrow I think he would be more worried about causing a scene than tonight but I wouldn't put anything past him/them. I need to be with others at all times and watch that they stay far away.

I will need a LOT of help to get through tonight and tomorrow without having to be exposed to more of his abuse, so I'm coming to my SI friends again.

Couldn't get any mace or bear spray. Maybe I can find an air horn or just scream?


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norabird
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((thebighurt))))

Big hugs and mojo coming your way. Tonight and tomorrow are just that--tonight and tomorrow. You will make it past them.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Air horns are good! Ear plugs too for when he starts talking. Sending mojo and strength!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wish you were in SoCA. I have a BIG ole can of bear spray to load you. A rather loud boat horn too. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feeling a bit fluttery in the stomach because someone just asked me about it. They said the kids are anxious about this too. That makes me feel really bad, but my first duty is to protect myself! I will seem to them to be the "spoiler" because I WILL NOT be in photos with them or in their presence any time.

That is because the kids do not want to hear anything he has done. Since he has been so sneaky about it and hasn't shown any of that side to them, they don't believe he is other than what he seems or tells them, now that they speak to him again. Although they all know about the cheating, they don't believe the extent nor the extent of his abuse of me for so many years.

I HAVE to do this, but I would rather do almost ANYthing else!

ETA: So this is confirmation that they WILL attend tonight.

[This message edited by thebighurt at 5:19 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((thebighurt)))))) Sending you strength and tons of STAY THE FUCK AWAY, FUCKER mojo.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol thanks San and NIK. About to leave for this shindig.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((tbh))))

Hope it went well and you were able to send plenty of 'go the fuck away' vibes.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I must have, Tesla. Thanks. Xpos and slut were already there when we arrived. The kids and grandkids went over to them among others who were standing nearby (people we all know so that's understandable too). I didn't mind because I had been with the kids all week and they weren't invited to where we are.

I, on the other hand, was approached by people for hugs and hellos. Some were people he wouldn't know. Everyone I saw asked how I'm doing and told me how wonderful I looked (and sounded very sincere). One friend introduced me to her friend and asked if she could believe I'm the grandmother! DGD's friends gave me hugs and told me they can't believe how great I look; said how happy they are to see me again. One even gave me a huge hug and said loudly, "You're so sweet. I just love you!"

Xpos looks older, drawn and his hair is now gray/white. Slut is even fatter than when I saw her two years ago and looking more than 2 years older. Living with him must not be doing good things for her. She would make two of me now!

Xpos always hated being around larger groups of people and true to his usual form, they left within a short time of our arrival. He stayed in the same spot the whole time I was there until they left.

I had a nice chat with the man I spoke about before and he wants to hang out with me tomorrow! Also spoke to the person in charge about photos and introductions. I have my fingers crossed that we will have this covered.


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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, tbh, I am SO glad it went this way for you. Bravo!


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Divorce Final 6/7/12

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, Harriet. Round two, or the main event, starts soon. Hope it goes as well.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You got this. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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norabird
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like it went wonderfully to start! More mojo for you tonight but sounds like you're doing great. Have fun


Sit. Feast on your life.

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