Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: MissTake (44701)

Divorce/Separation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Need a book
No12turn2
♂ Member
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been through the healing library. Looking for something to read for the BS who's unremorseful WW did not want to R. Something post divorce to lift my spirits and guide me to better days.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 525 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
Faithful w/Love
♀ Member
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When love is a lie.

That is what I am reading now.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
No12turn2
♂ Member
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 525 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
GotPlayed
♂ Member
Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment, by Steven Stosny, helped me a bunch.

If you are Christian, The Gift of Forgiveness, by Charles Stanley is a good resource, as it explains clearly the concept of forgiving without the other party knowing (and continuing letting them face the consequences of their behavior).

A DivorceCare class (book cost only at your local church) and therapy has also helped in my case.

And of course, there's here. :)


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 688 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
Dreamboat
♀ Member
Member # 10506
Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Journey from Abandonment to Healing


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17606 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
BAMAC
♂ Member
Member # 39334
Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Living and Loving after Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment, by Steven Stosny

I second this. I'm still making my way through it, but it really speaks to me.


DDays - 1/26/2013 | 3/23/14
Divorced 7/10/2014

Posts: 82 | Registered: May 2013 | From: TX
gypsybird87
♀ Member
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you. I also had a 100% non-remorseful spouse, and so many of the books I looked at were geared towards reconciliation. So frustrating and actually hurtful to see that, when your spouse has zero interest in even trying to save the relationship.

Getting Past Your Breakup, by Susan Elliot, was very helpful for me.

((no12turn2))

Sorry you're going through this.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 747 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
ddame23
♀ Member
Member # 40407
Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not a book but the chumplady website is what gets me through the day...


Me 42
Him on board, finally
1 5 year old child
D-Day April 18 2013
The whole Truth 7/21/14
Spoke (wrote) too soon more TT 7/23/14
I can't even put into words...

Posts: 57 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Coastal Empire, GA
canteat
♀ Member
Member # 39636
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Getting Past Your Breakup, by Susan Elliot

agreed!


Me: BW 42
Him: WH 47
Married 9 years-together 18
Dday: 6/17/2013 EA/PA(EA 1yr/PA 6mos-OW out of state)
status: Starting R 7/22/13

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jun 2013
Minty
♀ New Member
Member # 43205
Default  Posted: 3:45 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you No12turn2 for posting this. It's something I never thought of asking, but seems so obvious now. And thank you to everyone who replied, I don't know where to start with all the suggestions. This is wonderful and I'm taking any advice I can get whilst still trying to process what the heck happened.

For my 10 cents worth, my go to book is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.


Me BS ~ 50
WH serial cheat/ pathological liar ~ 49
1 DD ~14
Too many D-days to count
................................................................
The most wasted of all days is one without laughter

Posts: 11 | Registered: Apr 2014
Topic Posts: 10

Return to Forum: Divorce/Separation Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.