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User Topic: Midwives versus doctors in pg
deena04
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 37 and pg. We are not really in R, but not separated ( I don't know where we are.) Anyhow, my question is have any of you had a midwife assist with a homebirth rather than hospital care. I know they will say I am of "advanced maternal age" and I hate that, but I really want a personal, home experience anyway. I have had my kids in the hospital before and they went smooth as day. I just have always wanted to do this in a peaceful, home manner. My family has a few people that have done it, and I really want to, but WS is throwing a fit. I would like to reassure him from anyone that has done this. Thanks a bunch!!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my daughter at home, with midwives in attendance. I was 36 when she was born, and she is my only. I had never given birth before. It was a very positive experience. I am in Ontario, Canada, so my experience may be different - midwives are regulated by a provincial governing body and covered under provincial health care here. If you want to know more details send me a PM.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1710 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As long as the pregnancy progresses normally there is nothing wrong with trying a home birth. Just make sure you use a midwife who is well trained and who works in conjunction with a physician who does obstetrics. The fact that you have had normal vaginal deliveries in the past indicate you would most likely do fine.

Dr. PJ4 (who delivered babies for 17 long years!)


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would consult a specialist and see if you are high- high risk.

The main issue is whether you will need the aid of medical care and honestly have a no fail backup plan.

If need be is the hospital with the highest level of care within reason? What is the plan if a natural birth doesn't work?

There are people who have successful births and some that have complications that are unexpected.

Be smart and talk to your doctor. Good luck!


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peacelovetea
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had all three of mine with midwives, first at a freestanding birth center and the other two at home. It was wonderful. The midwives will know if you are too risky to deliver at home, but most women can do perfectly well. I loved having everyone come to me and getting tucked into my on bed after!


BW, SAHM
D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final

Posts: 542 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: PacNW
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can tell you that I had always dreamed of doing this, but always was too chicken for my own reasons.
I have a cohort at work that had all 3 of her babies at home with a midwife present, and she basically delivered her last guy on her own. She says it is an amazing experience. Which I'm sure it is.

I agree with PJ that your prior history of normal easy peasy deliveries is a great indicator of how things will go this time. I would also recommend a doula if you have had long labors. They can really make things a lot easier for you. Esp if you are still in limbo land with WS, and not able to count on his support.

The only babies as RN I have delivered were my own, and I wish there was some inbetween the hospital setting and home. I know some cities have these, Delivery Centers run by Nurse Midwifes. Both of my labors were short by any standard, but I know things would have been even faster and smoother if I would have been allowed to get out of bed and move around, but once they hood you up to all that junk moving isn't a real option. I personally needed the security of being in a hospital in case there was anything wrong with the babies when I delivered. Good thing I was with the second one, because she took a giant gulp of fluid on her way out, and was apneic for a full minute. She was very blue and it was scary as hell. Of course they suctioned her out, and were getting ready to intubate when she let out her first very loud and very pissed off wail.

Sorry to T/J.....Just got to remembering.

I say WS doesn't get a say unless he is really doing the work of R.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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sadone29
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sis had 3 home births! All of them went fantastically for her. I am jealous. I had a doctor for the first birth, which turned into an emergency c-section.

The second pregnancy, I had a midwife. I was high risk and she recommended I go ahead and do a c-section again. But she was with me the whole time, was my voice when the doctors weren't listening to me. I'm so glad she was there.

I'm also in Ontario where they are regulated, so I don't know how they are in your area.


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld
Can't wait to D, but stuck financially until I find a way out of this SAHM position I'm in.

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deena04
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks a bunch! I have always wanted to do it this way. I am seeing a doctor, but researching midwives in our area. I am only 11 weeks along, so really not far out yet. I just wanted to have my game plan before too long. :)


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

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