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User Topic: Heavy bleeding in first trimester/miscarriage?
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well it's been a few days since I've posted a pregnancy woe question so I'm overdue. warning - TMI

So yesterday, while at Hollywood Studios in the bathroom with my daughter, I wiped and saw a lot of red. This was at maybe 8 pm? Thankfully they had the machine stocked and I was able to get a pad. My mom & I left the park and the pad was full in about 2 hours, with quite a lot of clotting. I called the on-call OBGYN but I knew there wasn't much they could do, especially given that I was ten hours from home. I figured I was miscarrying for sure, but the bleeding slowed a bit overnight and is still continuing now, but it's not heavy anymore. Also, I've had almost no cramping.

I have an ultrasound scheduled for tomorrow and I'm trying to prepare myself for bad news. Quite honestly, if I am going to miscarry, I'm glad I had a warning sign. At the same time, I feel like if this were "the big one" I would still be bleeding heavily and I would have cramps, right? This isn't my usual miscarrying "MO" (how sad of a statement is that?). With my daughter I bled off and on for the first half of the pregnancy, but it was only brown spotting. I'm only between 7-8 weeks so I think that's way too early for placenta previa.

Has anyone had a short, virtually painless miscarriage? Or on a brighter note, has anyone experienced this and had a good outcome? I feel like there are so many red flags with this pregnancy but unlike last time I don't want to give up. I'll know tomorrow either way I guess.

Thanks for putting up with these constant pregnancy posts for me. I wish I could just have an easy uneventful pregnancy but it looks like that's just not in the cards for me.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never experienced this Jana, but wanted to let you know I'm praying for you and your baby.

(((jana)))


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks lies, I'm just getting so tired of this stress.

I just read about hematomas:

http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-health/complications/subchorionic-bleeding.aspx

This does make sense, especially given that we had sex that morning and I had been doing a ton of walking (and carrying my 32-pound daughter a lot). I'm hoping that is it but also don't want to set myself up for a fall.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't lose your faith yet sweetie.....I was about 13 weeks and had just seen the first ultrasound of my daughter where she "looked" like a baby.... and that night I woke up thinking I had peed on myself....went into the bathroom.....dropped my shorts and they were drenched in blood.... no spotting... flowing! I was horrified!!!! My hands started shaking....my whole body felt weak and terrified....and his mom and a reluctant baby's daddy came to the ER with me (he was more upset about taking his sleep medication and wasting it by coming with me to the hospital.....what an ass)...

I was bleeding horribly and I was positive I had lost her. I had JUST met her...that day.... (so to speak) and just emotionally bonded.....and WHAM.... it seemed to take forever for them to do the ultrasound...and get back to me. All while bleeding....no stopping. He came back and


She was fine!!!! It was a false alarm. I had placenta previa.... which is VERY VERY common believe it or not!

I just had to take it easy... and the fact that you were at an amusement park....probably walking around A LOT and doing a lot of activity... would cause the bleeding to start. I was a runner and probably had gone for a run that afternoon. I can't remember now if I did or not. Anything can trigger the bleeding.

After I left the hospital.....I had to wear PADS... for about 3 to 4 weeks until the bleeding finally subsided and turned from red to black....

But, my daughter was alive....and okay. And, that's all that mattered.

Prepare for the worst.... but don't lose hope for the best.... it IS possible that this is NOT a miscarriage.....

Good luck.....and ((BIGHUGZ))

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:15 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((jana))))) Oh, honey. I wish I could speed up the clock for you so you didn't have to wait for the ultrasound. Keeping you in my thoughts.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Shelly- it's good to hear a positive story (even though I know at the time it must have been hell ).

Thank NIK.

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 9:19 PM, April 30th (Wednesday)]


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was hell at the time....so when I read your story it definitely made my heart hurt for you because I never want to go through that dread again. But, it IS very possible that your baby is okay.... I just kept saying...."Please God.....let her be okay....." and he answered me! Miracles do happen! She is definitely my little miracle baby!

((((((Jana)))))))


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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Jana)))


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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))

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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a hemmorhage with my youngest at 14 weeks, gushing blood, I could literally feel it flowing. I soaked through my clothes in a matter of seconds and haas a puddle on the chair. I went to the ER immediately, soaked through 3 more pads in the three hours it took for me to be seen. My little one was fine. Don't give up hope just yet, but be aware that it's a possibility. I wish you nothing but the best! Oh and by the way, my little one? She's 2 years old now and the most amazing kid...


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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jana:

One afternoon my sister and I went out to eat. I went to the bathroom and I was horrified that my blue and white shorts were now red, white, and blue....well really, red, red, and blue. I didn't know I was pregnant at the time. Went to the clinic because I was concerned about the blood loss. They did a pregnancy test and it came back positive. Next day I went in for an ultrasound and the heartbeat was very strong. My daughter is now 16. Will be thinking good thoughts!


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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hemorrhaged badly with my son. Turns out there was a tear where his placenta was attached. Heavy, heavy bleeding that just gushed, lots of clots, I of course feared the worst.

Bedrest was ordered. Had to have a couple of Rhogam shots (or whatever it's called) to prevent whatever problem happens when unlike blood mixes. The bad news was that enough of our blood did mix that I did produce some kind of "ABO" antibodies, so DS was born with jaundice and had to have the bili lights & extra fluids.

But that was it. No permanent damage. Just absolute terror on my part.


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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had the same thing happen around six weeks with banana #3. I went to the ER and was dxed with placenta previa. Lots of detail I won't go into (so I don't freak you out) but very long story short, banana girl is going on 15 and has a bit of asthma but otherwise is absolutely fine.

PM if you want to talk. Pulling for you and your green bean!


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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No advice. Just hugs and prayers and crossing of fingers and toes.


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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Jana)))))

I so hope it's just a scare. Don't give up hope, honey.


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Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big hugs. (((Jana)))


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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jana,

Saying prayers and Crossing all crossables for you today.

Hugs,
K


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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jana - First thought I had was is this when you would normally have a period? With both of my pregnancies, I had a "normal" period at that one month mark. No bleeding when I should have had my first missed period, you know when you just find out, but at that 6 weekish mark. Full blown real period. Scary stuff that was.

As you can see it is actually more common than we know based on just the responses here. When that Placenta attaches, and then becomes a free floating thing attached by the cord, there is bleeding. It makes sense that it was while you were up and active. I had both happen at work while working in ICU.

Anyway. I am rooting for this little Bean to keep growing, and saying prayers, and sending Mojo that all is well today.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I should be 8 weeks today, but the baby was measuring small last week at the ultrasound. But it is right around that time frame, yes. I think my mom had bleeding like a period every four weeks when she was pregnant with my brother and me (we're twins). I didn't have that with my daughter but I know every pregnancy is different.

Also I forgot to take my prometrium last night. Jana = idiot. But judging from how sick I feel today, my progesterone is probably ok.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jana)))

Sending good thoughts and prayers.


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