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User Topic: Would have been 9 years today......
She11ybeanz
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Concerned  Posted: 8:14 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today would have been my 9 year wedding anniversary.... I can't believe its been 4 years since he walked out the door....deserted me about a week before our 5 year wedding anniversary, ultimately coming back a month later to tell me that he just "didn't have that spark for me" anymore.....asking for a divorce.

I was hoping I wouldn't notice, but I knew a couple of days ago....and have been dreading today.

I ran my 1st marathon on what would have been my 6 year wedding anniversary....so that is a positive memory for this day.... at least I have that!

Its a rainy day too. Seems appropriate. His loss.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Shelly))

It blows. I'm sorry.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7765 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks...it does.

I was hoping THIS would be the year that it would pass by and I wouldn't realize it.....but it wasn't. Maybe next year.

Its days like today that make being single sting the most. I don't know why.... but a cuddle party sounds GREAT for a day like today.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:16 AM, April 30th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My D was final 2 weeks before what would have been my 24 wedding anniversary. I mourned the first couple of years - particularly on what would have been the 25th. But it's been 9 years now and I rarely even notice the date. I'm usually on vacation during that time having the time of my life!

You will get there.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I already have a party planned on my anniversary this summer.. It is also my divorce anniversary! Same day.

I am looking forward to my day, but I am sorry yours was painful. :(

Do something nice for yourself!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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LineInTheSand
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Shelly))))

Eventually you'll get to a place where you won't even recall how many years it's been. I knew I was married 21 years but now I'd have to actually calculate how many years since. Who has the time???

It'll get better. I promise.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Shellybeanz)))

I promise too. It will get better.

Go ahead and feel sad today though. It is a loss and feeling it means you have a heart.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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