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User Topic: The Shit hit the fan on Sunday
idkam
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He found out i forwarded the emails to myself... Accused me of hacking into his email... I told him lets be clear i didnt hack into anything all i had to do was hit enter... Granted i should not have snooped but like i have tild him many times God exposed things that are hidden in the dark so let's say it was divine intervention....

He told me all bets are off about the car he isn't paying anything he is done....i told him well not our credit will be affected and i want him to do the right thing.... I told him I've been honest and loyal to him the least he could do is keep his word...

On a positive note: i got approved for the apt and I'm moving this weekend.....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for moving! You need your space away from this manipulative jerk.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1221 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He'll get over it.

Yay for the new apartment!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7772 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear you got approved for your apartment. Hope this week goes as smoothly as possible.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you are moving out this weekend. Enough of crazy town...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
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Posts: 3213 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you're movng! Not a moment too soon...


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15415 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
idkam
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks my friends...

He's been emailing me asking for my password so he can look at my email, translation delete the emails i forwarded to myself....does he really think I'm stupid..

He told me the emails were before we met..really well why do they have year 2010,2011&2012??? He has convinced himself the dates are all wrong....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should immediately forward those emails to a trusted friend or another email account that you create- now.

Just in case he is able to get in and delete them, you will have them in another safe place.


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*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's amazing how our 'invasion of privacy' is sooo much more important than their betrayal. Too bad emails are not a protected form of communication.

Ever wonder why lawyers' emails have that long disclaimer for privacy? Because there is no expectation of privacy for email. It is NOT like the U.S. Mail where is it illegal to open someone else's mail. You might as well stand on a street corner shouting your messages.

There is no such thing as privacy in our electronic society. Tomorrow, the Supreme Court will hear arguments about whether or not a search warrant should be required to search someone's cell phone. A lot of cell phones have email capabilities. Even here on SI, I do not write anything I am not willing to own up to in public.

Long story short, he was an idiot for sending anything private electronically.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1866 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
idkam
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He"s really being a jerk... I tried to log onto my computer and he changed the password so i could not work last night....then i got on the phone to call my niece and we couldn't figure out how to make it work because we needed the password reset disc....i then called my cousin whose a computer programmer but he didn't have his laptop with him...so as i was trying to search the net asshole was in the room talking to at&t and turned my phone off....he also cancelled the car insurance on my vehicle...

What's a gurl to do? I got into my car and started heading for Fiesta grocery store because i remembers you can buy a trac phone for little of nothing....i got to Fiesta and they did not sell TP's but the girl told me to check Walmart....i get to walmart and saw an employee in the parking lot and asked if they sold TP's he said yelp check in electronics......it took about 30 min to buy and set it up....thank you Deborah because i had no idea what i was doing and she was super helpful.
Asshole was riding on his high horse because he thought he had me by the balls(sorta speak)....

Have any of you had the experience of not remembering anyone's phone numbers?....thank god my mom still has a landline...i had to call her to my niece phone number...

The emails were forwarded to my niece and sister...

When i get off today a friend will help me pack my clothes and i will stay at another friends house until Friday....

Our IT guy was able to finally get into my computer and we changed the password.....

Should I tell asshole?? Not


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As if you needed any more reassurance that he's a jerk.

Glad you are getting away from him.


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

Posts: 873 | Registered: Feb 2006
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez. Not like you needed more reassurance that breaking up with him was the right choice!

Do you still have the old phone? The numbers should be saved on there. You might be able to have them transferred to your new phone. Or you can do it manually.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
idkam
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for your response....

Little: all of my friends and family phone numbers slowly deleted one by one... My niece told me that he probly got into my iCloud account...idk but he's very scary to me now....

After work today a friend of mine helped me hefty bag my clothes and i put some at her place and I'm at another friends house...i put my car in her garage while shes at a concert...

May be I'll get some sleep tonight....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow what a jerk. FYI if you are divorcing he can not cancel auto insurance. He is an idiot. He can not pay for it but cancelling your auto can get him in trouble with the judge.
Just wow...Glad you are getting away from him.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3188 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep documenting all of this insanity, Ikdam.
I hope you nail his sorry ass in court.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
idkam
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gaby: we are not married thank God... He's just a boyfriend well exbf....

I slept well last night finally....my friend has two lovely cats and I'm allergic to cats....oh well i did survive and i have 3 more days....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you changed your iCloud password. as well as any other passwords that you have. He sounds super controlling and manipulative. Why would you delete someone's phone contacts??

Glad you got some sleep last night. Any more craziness from him?


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
idkam
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Turtle i turned my iCloud off because it also showed "where's my phone" ....i think he may have put a tracker on my phone in case i went to my hotmail account he'd be able to get the password....can at&t put a tracker on my phone without my knowledge?


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, he is batshit crazy.

Be careful with him, he sounds seriously dangerously crazy.

Thank GOD you are getting away from him.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3416 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW....yikes!!! Yay for the apartment!!! You need to get away from him!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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