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User Topic: Said Goodbye to an Old Friend Today
Kuwaited
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Helpless  Posted: 7:27 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I had to say goodbye to my dog (Heidi) this morning.

We (the kids and I) rescued her about 8 years ago.

She was 12-13 years old (old for a Red Tick Coonhound) and was showing her age for quite some time. She also had been in congestive heart failure for a couple of years.

She’d been unsteady on her feet for a while, particularly after getting up in the morning.

Let her out Saturday morning to do her business. A bit later in the morning she tried to climb the stairs to get to where the cats and I were…but she stumbled down the after getting up about 2 stairs. Afterward she went to get in her bed. And there she stayed until this morning.

Come Sunday, she couldn’t stand up. When I tried to help her she couldn’t carry her weight and collapsed. Plus she was breathing heavy, her legs appeared swollen as well as her abdomen. She didn’t eat the last half of Saturday and none on Sunday. She couldn’t even lift her head this morning.

So I called the vet as soon as they opened this morning and they said they would accommodate her whenever we could make it in. I had to carry her in.

As soon as the vet walked in the room he said: "Well….we have two options here. You can take her home to die…or we can do it here."

And so...she went gently off to sleep at about 9am this morning.

Good God…didn’t expect it to be that difficult! I figured I’d get emotional…but not so much as I did. Thankfully....sadcat (SI member) lives down the road from me and agreed to be there with me. Thank you for that, sadcat.

Probably should have done it earlier....but we hold on to hope, don't we?

She was a good dog.

Not a good start to the day....



"For every trip to the vet, there's a car ride.", Satchel Pooch.

"At some point in life, everyone has gambled on a fart and lost." -- Tad...from Craig's List


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kuwaited and Sadcat)))

I'm so sorry for your loss.


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Kodi
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kuwaited and family)))

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madseason
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry Kuwaited. ((((Kuwaited and kids))))


Lose my breath in waves
Knowing that every crash is bleeding the hourglass
And taking the stride
From all our lives

*Somewhere, far away from here, I saw stars. Stars that I could reach.*


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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IMO, dogs are family and we mourn their passing as such (((Kuwaited & family)))


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

(((Hugs)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Sending hugs.

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Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Heidi gave you so much love--and you gave the same to her. Dogs are the best people!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((kuwaited & family))))) I'm so very sorry.


You can call me NIK

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw man... I am so sorry to hear that, Kuwaited. You did the most humane thing you could have done, but it is always so hard to say goodbye.

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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sorry for your lost of Heidi, its hard to lose a furbabie ....


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry the time came, Kuwaited. Poor old girl; I'm sure you made the right decision, painful as it was.

(((Kuwaited & the rest of Heidi's family)))


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kuwaited and family)))


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kuwaited...

I'm so sorry you had to make such a painful and sad decision...it's never easy. You sent her off with love and dignity, she couldn't have asked for any greater gift from you.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my, your post had me bawling.
So sorry for your loss.


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D: 7/2/2014

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Stay_Or_Go
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart goes out to you. Our pets are like family and it hurts so badly to see them decline and to lose them. Thinking of you as you grieve. Hugs...

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kuwaited)))

Poor sweet girl. You gave her a loving life. She will always be with you.


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

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bbee
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kuwaited)))

I'm so sorry. That's not too far in the future for me.


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have an older dog who is undergoing treatment for cancer right now. I'll be faced with the same decision as you in the 'not too far off' future. I don't like being 'tasked' with this decision of when it is the 'right' time for my dog to die.


I'm so sorry. You loved her and she loved you.......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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