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User Topic: afraid of being in the bathroom alone
justasinger
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, so this has been bothering me for a while. For the past couple of months, my 4 yo (will be 5 in less than 2 months) absolutely refuses to go to the bathroom alone. She says she's afraid she'll see spiders. She takes either our dog in with her or our cat. I'm noticing it a bit more because the cat is currently expecting, and so she's not available to my daughter at present (cause the cat is sequestered in a pack and play to have her little). I've never had this problem before, and really just don't know what to do.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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mainlyinpain
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mix her up a bottle of "spider repellant". Have her help you mix it up. Go together and spray the bathroom and then she can take the spray with her whenever she goes in the bathroom. She will be locked and loaded.

Here are a few ideas from pinterest:

3 Homemade Spider Repellents
As summer comes to a close and fall/winter seasons start to creep in, spiders start to look for somewhere warm to hide. Unfortunately, in most cases that place is our homes. However, there is a way to repel them naturally, without using any chemical full and sometimes unsafe traps. If you are looking to keep spiders outside this winter, check out these 3 great methods below!
Peppermint: Spiders hate peppermint, so use it to keep them away! Simply mix the following ingredients in a spray bottle: A mixture of 1 part peppermint, 1 part water and a few drops of dish soap. Spray this around doors, windows and anywhere spiders like to hide in your house!
Coconut: Coconut oil and vinegar are a perfect mix to keep spiders away! This mix is especially good if you find spiders in your shower: 1 part coconut oil and 1 part vinegar, mix together in a spray bottle. Use this method in your shower, bathrooms, windows and even around all your drains in the house.
Citrus: Last but not least, citrus is a great deterrent for spiders! This is the easiest method to keep them away as you can just drop a few essential oils anywhere around the house that they show up! Use oils such as: lime, orange, lemon to keep them away!

[This message edited by mainlyinpain at 1:25 PM, April 11th (Friday)]


DD 1 - 7/7/2004
DD 2 - 10/31/2011
DD 3 - 4/30/2013(or continuation?)(Yes)
DD 4 - 9/25/2013
DD 5 - 2/15/2014 (found phone from 2009)

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here are my thoughts:

1. I just read this week that four is a common age to develop new fears, as their imaginations are very active.

2. She just likes having the dog or cat in the bathroom with her & makes up a likely excuse. My daughter always wants the poor cat in the bathroom with her.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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justasinger
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's an awesome idea, I never thought of making up a spider repellant... And yea, the thought did cross my mind as to her just wanting a pet with her anytime, but she's only like that to go to the bathroom.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The spray also works for monsters at night. I did that with my kids. Used lavender oil to scent the room. They knew when they smelled the lavender they were safe from the monsters in the closet, under the bed, in the bookshelf.......


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds just like my DD (almost 4!)

Sub out a stuffed kitty? We have a bajillion stuffed pug toys that serve as surrogates for our live ones.


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Cally60
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My few thoughts....

Do you know why she is afraid of spiders? Is it possible that someone has told her some scary tall tale about spiders in the bathroom? If a fear of seeing spiders in the bathroom is the true reason she wants the pets with her, I think I'd work on quelling her fear of spiders.

Could there be anything else that she fears telling you, but that is making her afraid of using the bathroom? Again, it could be a tall tale. Or it could be something else that scared her.

She just likes having the dog or cat in the bathroom with her & makes up a likely excuse.


This was me at the age of around five ! I can remember finding going to the bathroom excruciatingly boring. We didn't have pets, but I used to persuade my little sister to come into the bathroom with me, so that I'd have someone to talk to and provide entertainment, as a way of alleviating the monotony of it all.

[This message edited by Cally60 at 3:16 PM, April 12th (Saturday)]


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MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was also about that age that some girls a year or two older than me told me that if you said "Mary Worth" 3 times while looking in a mirror in a dark room that a witch would come out and kill you - and I was traumatized for many, many years (even after eventually screwing up the courage to do it to *know* it wasn't so, ... but it continued to haunt me into adulthood despite every effort to exorcise the terror...a mortifying admission but encouragement to you to ask her what's underneath the new fearful behavior.)


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