(((ALL in this thread who have experienced this)))
I was molested at a young age (can't really remember how old- maybe I was between 5 to 7 years old? Memory is hazy here and I need to ask my mom how old I was when I stayed with that lady) by teenage grandsons of a former child care provider.
I felt guilty, like it was my fault, so I never told anyone. I was 27 before I told anyone besides my h...that was when I told my mom.
Yeah. See, I had agreed to be one of the twins' girlfriend. He said that that was what boyfriends and girlfriends do. Looking back, what he did was wrong wrong wrong and I was in no way to blame for what happened, but at the time I felt complicit in the act(s) by agreeing to be his girlfriend. I didn't tell anyone besides my sister who also experienced this mess, until I was early twenties(??) and that was my mom. I never received therapy and the damage has been pervasive and difficult to work through. I started seeing an IC last year but haven't been back in awhile. She was very helpful but I just became too busy.
I would very strongly urge getting your daughter some therapy. Work with CPS who should have trained professionals (social workers) to help you deal with this; ask them what resources are available to you to help you help your daughter navigate things. I would suggest IC for yourself as well.
(((Jana and girls)))