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User Topic: 5 years ago today....
Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This day, 5 years ago, my life changed forever. I had my first Dday. 4 years ago, exactly one year after my first Dday, I found out my XH was still cheating on me with the OW and continued their four year LTA. On that day, I told him it was over. I have not seen him again since I told him to leave MY house four years ago.

He called, he texted, he cried. I never gave back in. Four years later, he is still with the OW. I should be angry and bitter about that, but I am not. Every day I am thankful for the fact that the situation I was so suddenly thrown in to without consent allowed me to open up my eyes and see the person he really was....not the person that I tried to make him in to for so many years. The person that I wanted for him to be. I thank the OW because if it wasn't for her, I might still be stuck in a dead end marriage. I now see it as a blessing, very well disguised.

It is not an experience or situation that I wish on anybody because I went to hell and back. I was weak five years ago, but I became stronger than ever four years ago. I will never allow myself to be at that weak, dark place that I found myself in.

I thank SI and all of my friends here who supported me and were with me every step of the way. I could not have gotten to the point that I am at today without you guys. Today I am happy, alive and thriving with my new life. Thank you!

[This message edited by Jessy1501 at 10:40 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]


Attempting to give a fuck: ███████████████████] 99% Complete...ERROR!: Unable to give a fuck.

Posts: 5899 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: My own fantasy land
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jessy)))

You're the bad ass chick I love to see here I'm so happy *you're* happy...you deserve so many good things life has to offer.

Never settle for less


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad to read this, it helps me remember that no matter what happens from here on out I won't feel like this forever. Thank you for sharing.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're an amazing young woman, Jessy. I remember you first posts and how quickly you took control of your life. You have a joie de vivre that shines


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same way you do, Jessy. A blessing in disguise.

Thanks for the update and giving the new ones some hope for a bright future.

Rock on, girl!


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7827 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys! Couldn't have done it without SI.


Attempting to give a fuck: ███████████████████] 99% Complete...ERROR!: Unable to give a fuck.

Posts: 5899 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: My own fantasy land
LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing your victory!! It does give me hope that I won't be feeling like this forever.


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing!! You are one bad ass chick!!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this update. You rock, sweetie.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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