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User Topic: Stupid things my WS says-all welcome
heartbroken2012
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mchercheur

WH: "I'm not a cheater."
me: "But you cheated."

WH: "Yes, I made one little mistake, but I am not a cheater."

Yep Wh says this and still claims to not be a cheater. So f'ing stupid.


BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 551 | Registered: Jan 2013
Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

we still have been married for 10 years, that's history

Gawdamned RIGHT that marriage is history. Asswipe.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4943 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Foolme1
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First dday back in 2009: he initially told me that he wasn't sure what he wanted anymore, then moved to the spare bedroom, completely blind siding me. Never said he wanted a divorce, only said he needed space. I was 4 months pregnant and had no idea where this was coming from. 5 months later was my dday. When I confronted him:
Him: I didn't cheat I you, I told you I was done first before I met her.

Ummmm....were MARRIED. You can't just "break up" with your pregnant wife, and not only that, the whole time he was giving me false hope and still sleeping with me too (I didn't know about affair otherwise I NEVER would have put my unborn baby at risk). Besides, he never told me he was done either.

Dumbass.


BGF-me (31)-devoted girlfriend
xBF-him (30)-manipulative cheater
One beautiful dd. 14 years together (off and on). Married for 8 years, divorced, then "dating" for 3 more years.

Posts: 115 | Registered: Mar 2013
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of his best for not being happy:

"You were always suspicious"

Then he stopped and admitted, "I guess you had a right to be"

Can't make these things up.


Posts: 1947 | Registered: Jan 2010
SWAT70
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Her..He told me you where f'ing Katey.
Me..Do you really think I would do that?
Her..No, but he kept saying you did and I got sick of hearing it.
Me..So you f'ed him for no reason.
Her...long pause..Um I don't know. I guess so.

Her..I never told him ILY and I never put you down.
Me..What about your email, when you said I was an idiot. He trusts me and would never no.
Her..I never said that!!!
Me..placed the print out of email
Her..Well I do not remember saying that.

Her..I didn't want you to think I was some type.of slut.
ME..Umm..you gave him a bj and f'ed him. What does that make you?
Her..silence

And her number 1...It was just sex.
I did NOT even reply.

To quote a lot of you.
DUMBASS


Me BH-45. WW-39
DD-11 DS-6 DS-3
D day was Valentines day 2014. Talk about a trigger.


Posts: 336 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Down range
Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH: "OW is SO NICE."

me: "Nice girls don't try to destroy families."

ditto


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes I really can't believe that I'm able to keep my mouth shut when certain comments come out of my wife's mouth. This bullshit has turned me into the most cynical untrusting, spiteful bastard there is.

Her: I never loved him.

Me: What about the time you and him were talking about getting married and taking our children away and how much they would love it. Her words exactly "it would be the start of an amazing new life".

Her: Well that was just fantasy talk and nothing more.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 616 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
plewpiter
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After I catch her in a lie, saying she hasn't broken NC and deleted incriminating texts:

Me: You lied to me, to my face, repeatedly about it.
Her: We weren't talking about anything serious. [crying] I didn't do any thing wrong!
Me: What do you call deleted texts to cover up broken NC and then lying repeatedly about it?

She had no logic about the whole thing to begin with, why should I expect any now.


Married 2.5 years (Dec 2011)
D-Day April 2013
EA (maybe more) with her boss, who she had had a PA with before meeting me
Trying to Reconcile

Posts: 79 | Registered: Apr 2014
deena04
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This crap truly makes me want to give up on R and walk away. I get tired of him not understanding that his mouth is a huge trigger for me.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1075 | Registered: Dec 2013
Junebug0525
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH: "OW is SO NICE."
me: "Nice girls don't try to destroy families."

Mine said, "OW is a good person. You just don't know her".

My reply: "She's not a good person, she's a fucking homewrecker!"


Me: BS
Him: WXH DDay-11/22/2009~ D~ 10/25/10
OWhore: Co-worker (7 years younger)
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." AND THEY DID!!!

Posts: 1141 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Maryland
justasinger
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure if it's a good thing or a bad thing that I found myself smiling reading some of these. Mine has used many of these previously, but now has been spouting this one...

(her) I finally know now how bad I made you feel, because You are making me feel it with what you are doing.

I haven't actually answered this to her, because the idea that I'm now putting her through the same thing that she has is just so insane. She thinks that because I am looking for someone to talk to online (online only mind you, and ONLY for friendship) that I'm putting her through the same hell...


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
kbl1301
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found a topless picture of a girl we actually were friends with. I flew off the handle.

Me: "Why the F do you have a topless pic of her?'

him: "they are just boobs, everybody has boobs"


Posts: 69 | Registered: Apr 2014
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some of these are bringing back some not so found memories but here goes:

"I can't imagine my life without you in it."

But you told the OW that you would move in with her and leave your wife.

"But you know me, I never plan anything...I did not have any plans to follow through."

Last night he told me that he's "moved on" from the affair and doesn't think about it any more which is why he hasn't been telling me he is sorry for what he did.

Sorry but *I* haven't moved on. There is no amount of money, jewelry, travel that will ever make this ok for me. All I want is a husband who wants to work hard every day to make me certain that I have made the right decision to work on the marriage. Instead, he is too worried about me "holding this over him" forever.



BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry but *I* haven't moved on. There is no amount of money, jewelry, travel that will ever make this ok for me. All I want is a husband who wants to work hard every day to make me certain that I have made the right decision to work on the marriage. Instead, he is too worried about me "holding this over him" forever.

^^^^THIS!!!!

I get the "no matter how many times I tell you I'm sorry you're never gonna believe me, or get over it" He's right. B/c he does NOT show me jack shit of remorse!!

"WE thought you would like her, and the four of us (me, WH, AP and APBH) could get together for dinner sometimes"! Holy shit Batman, not in my lifetime!!!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1304 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

him: "they are just boobs, everybody has boobs"

Now that's an original


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5134 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
deena04
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another one:

Me: asking him whatever the hell is on my mind at the moment

Him: walking away not talking now

Me: Why won't you answer me?

Him: Because you have asked me time and time again. It doesn't do any good. I am just going to start lying to you and telling you anything you want to hear.

Me: Oh, like you've been honest all along and never did anything to make me question you.
-or-

Him: Me doing this wasn't about you.
Me: Really? I am not affected at all, huh?
(he says this one when trying to figure out why he did it; says it was because we were arguing a lot and he thought I was leaving him) Brilliant, asshole!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1075 | Registered: Dec 2013
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just remembered this one but it is pre-affair.

Me walking by the bathroom on the way to the other bathroom because I have my period VERY BAD (one of those horrible times after you recently have a baby). I was 1/2 clothed, he is on the toilet and says, "You really need to lose weight."

I recall this last night as we were in an exchange of who made who more miserable in the marriage and he said he never said stuff like that unless he was provoked. I asked him what I did to provoke him and he said he could not remember.

He also can't remember any of the other things that I did to provoke him when he said a lot of other mean stuff to me throughout our marriage yet he cites his resentment as one of the reasons why he had an affair.

Doesn't he realize he just makes himself look worse? He sounds so irrational.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
deena04
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((womaninflux))) No person should ever tell a recently birthed woman she needs to lose weight (or at any other time either). Wow, how you didn't lose it on him is amazing to me. I saw a quote that I thought was cute:

"Women with a little extra weight live longer than men who mention it" -

That could go either way for either gender. I just thought it was cute. :)


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1075 | Registered: Dec 2013
mal2006
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I ended it on my own before you caught me." Um, no, I suspected for weeks that something was going on, told you not to even speak to the girl and you told me you weren't even doing that. And I "caught" you by reading posts on an online forum that anyone in the world could see yet you STILL denied it.


Me: BW 28
Him: WH 28
DDay: 1/17/14

Posts: 68 | Registered: Feb 2014
Lobo
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH: "I didn't do anything wrong".

ME: "Really, so why didn't you tell me about her?"

WH: "It was none of your business".

Holy Mother of Everything.


Imagine a world where the words you speak appear on your skin. Would you be more careful of what you say?

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